Talk me through being with an uncircumcised man when I've only ever known the opposite...

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After 30 years of sleeping with a circumcised man, I am now embarking on a new relationship. I don't know for sure, but I'm assuming he isn't circumcised. And I totally don't have a clue what to expect and what to do with it, if that is the case. Please can someone talk me through...I think I will be able to ask him what he likes, but I would also really really like some hints as to how to um, approach this potentially new experience for me...I'm stressing that I won't have a clue when first presented with it - and have this insecure fear that I'll do something wrong or embarrassing. Thank yoU!

Tell him that and have lots of fun discovering!

For what it’s worth I haven’t slept with an uncircumcised man since 1991 and I had a good date the other day. I’ve no idea if he’s circumcised or not but I’m pretty excited to be honest.

Oh just realised that’s 32 years so there you go 😁.

Coming at it from the opposite side, I never know what to do with a circumcised one! I’m sure he’ll be happy to show you what he likes.

Ditto @ItsAnOrgasmNotAFabergeEgg

My bf is circumcised, I didn’t know he was until the first time, and his was due to an injury not done at birth as usual. I don’t find a great deal of difference giving a BJ for example, obviously there is a difference but it’s not something that I had to change ‘method’ much for example! Lol. Just go with it, you’ll soon discover what he likes and vice versa.

With a full foreskin a man has to be specially careful with his hygiene. Beware of being impetuous after a long day. Do look closely as part of the foreplay.
The scent can be worse than tights after 10 hours.

But that aside, it can be a very pleasant/downright exciting experience. (From what I remember of the ExH.)

There really isnt a difference.

I'm not circumcised and my partner was used to circumcised. Took her a bit off getting used to giving BJ, she says it's soo much easier circumcised as all the nerve endings are there (no I'm not getting it done) she has no issues giving now and never has. Like any uncercumcised man we pull skin back for good wash so no difference in hygiene. Personally I couldn't think of anything worse than been circumcised and penis rubbing against boxers.

Weird thread - sort of thing some sick sad folk would get off on.

This. I’m not even sure what she’s asking?? Is she looking for blowjob tips or something?

I've seen many penises, I was quite the goer in my youth! I couldn't tell you if ANY of them were circumcised, shape, size, tilt are much more noticeable.

Well, this is the Sex topic. Maybe not the place for you if you’re not comfortable discussing sex I guess.

No noticeable difference really. Looks wise I prefer uncircumcised, and when giving oral, if you trace your tongue around and under the foreskin, he will love you for it.

If it helps it's easier when they're uncircumcised. It just... does what it does

@cormorant5 I've never ever noticed a smell! But maybe my partners have been clean and not cretins

😁 It’s like people complaining when you get threads talking about Christmas in July, not noticing that the posts are in the Christmas topic.

I think that might have just been your ex 🤢

I’m very comfortable discussing sex. I’m wondering what it is she’s asking for.

haha, I think I made it quite clear in my original post what I'm asking for - no ulterior motives or weird thing to get off on...just exactly what I asked. I'm not comfortable asking friends in real life, so this forum seemed exactly the right place for me to ask the question. And if it helps me feel more confident when the time comes, then that's great.

Firstly, please don't worry about doing anything "wrong". If you both really like each other just relax and go with the flow. I'm sure he's not going to be thinking about anything other than enjoying being with you.

Secondly, speaking as an owner of an uncircumcised penis I suspect you probably won't notice a huge amount of difference, certainly not once things are "under way".

I don't know for absolutely sure as I'm only familiar with my own "appendage" but what I can say is that when I'm in the, er, aroused state (and at odd other times during the day even when I'm not) the foreskin tends to slip right back and I would say looks pretty much indistinguishable from the circumcised version.

And finally what I do find exquisite (and possibly other uncircumcised men will agree) is when DW moves the foreskin back and forth over the glans with her hand during foreplay/masturbation etc.

Hope that helps.

also the owner of an uncircumcised penis, as per above poster, once fully erect the foreskin kinda rolls back ready for action

one slight note of caution, be aware of the frenulum, if that tears it can bleed a lot, so use lube, also you might find the penis glands are more sensitive as it’s normally covered and a bit more moist

I’m no expert but I find it easier to give a handjob to someone who is uncircumcised- it kind of all moves a little easier.

@NoDatingForOldMen one slight note of caution, be aware of the frenulum, if that tears it can bleed a lot
Ouch, that sounds painful. That's never happened to me, fortunately. But it does remind me to add one thing to my previous post which may or may not be helpful. The frenulum is very, very sensitive once the foreskin is drawn back. Stroking with the finger or tongue can feel amazing. But this maybe this equally true for a circumcised man?

Also, thinking on about your question, to say the only time my foreskin features at all during sex is when she is stroking me with her hand. When she is giving me a bj or when I am going inside her it is invariably completely drawn back and - I guess - indistinguishable from a circumcised penis. So I really don't think you're going to notice any substantial difference.

Ditto on previous poster on hygiene. I'd like to think that most right-thinking men will ensure complete cleanliness by pulling the foreskin back during a daily shower.

But the main thing is just to relax and have fun. He's not going to be thinking about anything but his enjoyment of being with you.

@Iloveabaconbutty it didn’t really hurt much at the time ( other things on my mind.. ) but I do remember a dull pain, it bleed quite a lot and was a bit stingy, and you just have to leave it alone to heal by itself ( about 6 weeks ), and I’m more cautious around PIV now, went back to using condoms for a while and more lube

www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/mens-health/what-should-i-do-if-my-penis-is-torn/

Ethics aside I’m a massive convert to shaved and circumcised , makes oral so appealing and easy !

that said with a foreskin just pull it down and hope they are very clean

I did have a rather sad incident with a day old Willy recently , I’d assumed he’d have showered 🧼 before the date
he hadn’t
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