Not that bothered about sex

[Whawhawha]

I’ve always been this way. Maybe when I was younger I was a bit more interested but I could go for years (when I was single) without sex and really not thinking about it or needing it. So fast forward to no. Been with my DH for 12 years and dc who is 5. We don’t have sex that much (a few times a year). I love him and do fancy him but just find sex a bit ‘ick’. Is that strange? What can I do about it? I don’t want my husband to have a sexless life but I don’t really like it that much. I think going through ivf and pregnancy has made it worse ☹️

IVF really takes it's toll...and 11 years on, it still is. Love our DC...buut its a huge cost and not just financial

I suspect the IVF is partly to blame, so very stressful and I expect many years having scheduled sex. You could try putting back some spontaneity back, some time away, rediscovering each other’s pleasures / desires etc. I went years without sex as I was single, until 2 months ago when I started dating an ex colleague. Now I’m rediscovering it and can’t get enough. Helped hugely by the fact my new bf is a very selfless lover and amazing in bed. When I was with my ex I’d have happily not had sex again as it was predicable and mediocre