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Sex Chat Further - not wanting to tread on toes

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stereoboomer · 05/01/2023 11:19

As the Sex Chat thread seems to be peetering out a little I just wanted to thank the originator - can't quite remember the name at the mo but they know who they are. I don't want to tread on their toes but just wanted to add to the general sentiment.

Did everyone else who got involved enjoy themselves and find some fun? As a man I have to say that I have met some truly wonderful people and have struck up some very close relationships - insomuch as you can online. Some obviously came and went (no pun intended lol) and there was no connection but when you can illustrate that you are just a normal person who likes to chat about all things - not just sex - its amazing how well you can connect with someone. I have discussed books, holiday destinations, relationships, hobbies, clothes - so many things. I think that's the secret to it. Rather than just bowl in with sex propositions like "I'm naked waiting for you........" or such like; which lets face it, is a bit grubby, when you open up and start to chat normally it can prove a lovely experience. As one chatter said to me - "I Like to chat normally interspersed with a bit of filth!"

To the few ladies I am chatting to (and you know who you are) I just want to say thank you and it has been, and REMAINS, an absolute pleasure to have got to know you and share some of our "experiences".

Happy New Year to everyone and hope you are all continuing to have fun.

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GentlemanJay · 05/01/2023 12:48

Please be wary of men contacting men, pretending to be ladies. It's happened twice to me I suspect. Unless they can give me some concrete proof, I won't engage in chat.

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stereoboomer · 05/01/2023 13:00

GentlemanJay · 05/01/2023 12:48

Please be wary of men contacting men, pretending to be ladies. It's happened twice to me I suspect. Unless they can give me some concrete proof, I won't engage in chat.

Sorry to heat that Jay. I don't seem to have encountered that.

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Sparkybloke · 05/01/2023 13:17

I've had a couple of lovely chats...one is still running after several months...not had any men pretending to be women so far as i can detect!. A couple more fizzled out fairly quickly and several people I messaged simply never responded....either they had too many messages or really didnt want to chat after all...overall though some sexy fun chats with some lovely people....and I'm still about if any ladies do fancy chatting but I don't think I will be making the first move again.

Maybebe · 05/01/2023 14:28

It's amazing what can come of online connections and how strong and valuable those connections can be.

I started a thread a couple of years ago asking where I could find women in a similar situation to me. Those women answered the thread and it turned out there were a lot more of them than I'd ever imagined - and we formed an online community outside of MN that is still going now. Plenty of them have met each other, there's been 1-1 connections, social events, even a weekend away and the virtual support and advice has been really invaluable to so many. All from a little thread on Mumsnet about being a bisexual. Amazing!!

I'm glad you've had a positive experience too OP and I don't mean to derail your thread, but I agree that people and their ability to connect over a shared experience, are incredible.

Sasha46 · 05/01/2023 16:59

I was on the original thread and have had some great conversations over the last 6/7months….I have also learnt a lot about people and experiences and I agree it’s also about having normal chats as well as the obvious.

Thank you to the original poster

ThreeGoesAtAWord · 05/01/2023 17:59

I am guilty of not responding to the odd message. If I don't do it straight away it just leaves my head. Something to try and better in 2023! Apologies to anyone I've ignored.

I've said this before. I have met someone and almost 6 months later we're still chatting daily. We've talked about everything - sex, life, love, TV, music, family. We keep each other informed if one of us has plans and can't talk much. We have date nights where we watch a film together.

It is going swimmingly!

I'm not currently looking for anyone else - when I say I chat to this guy all the time, I mean all the time! From early AM through the working day and evening. And occasionally a wee middle of the night chat!

MaryJean87 · 05/01/2023 18:42

I have enjoyed it and still am.. I've got one ongoing of a few weeks that I'm enjoying chatting to and a couple of new ones. I'm probably guilty of stopping abruptly or not replying to all messages but I think sometimes it's easy to get bored and want to move onto new people once there's nothing more to say.. and it's fairly obvious early on if someone's not your cup of tea.

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stereoboomer · 05/01/2023 18:53

MaryJean87 · 05/01/2023 18:42

I have enjoyed it and still am.. I've got one ongoing of a few weeks that I'm enjoying chatting to and a couple of new ones. I'm probably guilty of stopping abruptly or not replying to all messages but I think sometimes it's easy to get bored and want to move onto new people once there's nothing more to say.. and it's fairly obvious early on if someone's not your cup of tea.

I haven’t got bored at all. Actually the longer they go one the better they seem to get

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MaryJean87 · 05/01/2023 19:09

Yeah I agree they get better after a certain
point as you get to know someone better. You've probably had better luck than me with who you've talked to. There's only been one guy who I've actually fancied who I'm talking to now. But I think if I'm not going to take things beyond just chat, which I wouldn't do as it's a step too far for me, there has to be an natural end point sooner or later. Appreciate not everyone feels the same, that's just the way I feel about it.

Thisismysexforumname · 05/01/2023 19:43

I have had some great chats too. Still a couple ongoing, about sex and day to day stuff. I had to stop for a while due to personal circs, but hoping to get back in the saddle now xmas and NY is out the way.

Funberry · 06/01/2023 10:44

I have chatted with some interesting ladies here, and have enjoyed it very much. Just a shame not to have more

AbsolutePixels · 06/01/2023 17:52

Please be wary of men contacting men, pretending to be ladies.

I once met a seemingly heterosexual man who told me he did this kind of thing. Why??? It's such a creepy, weird thing to do. Can anyone explain it?

MovingonfromMartin · 06/01/2023 19:28

GentlemanJay · 05/01/2023 12:48

Please be wary of men contacting men, pretending to be ladies. It's happened twice to me I suspect. Unless they can give me some concrete proof, I won't engage in chat.

I contacted someone from the chat a while ago now and after whittering on about the menopause and hrt and life he wanted me to send him a picture to prove I was a woman. There was a bit of rude stuff in there too and I realise the menopause isnt a good sexchat topic, but if it causes an outrageous sex drive it is! Surely I could have just taken a screen shot of any pic and sent it to him? Needless to say the chat didn't continue.

ATabulaRasa · 06/01/2023 19:33

I’ve definitely had some that were men pretending to be women. Definitely a weird thing to do

Rudeboi · 06/01/2023 19:36

So wrong! Why would they want to pretend to be women? What kick would they get out of it 🤔.

ATabulaRasa · 06/01/2023 19:47

No idea really

Sparkybloke · 06/01/2023 20:24

Still about if anyone wants to chat...

AbsolutePixels · 06/01/2023 20:24

Why would they want to pretend to be women? What kick would they get out of it

Maybe it's an autogynophilia thing.

Those who have experience of being on the receiving end of this nonsense, how did you find out they were men? Did they admit it or were there subtle tells?

MovingonfromMartin · 06/01/2023 20:28

I agree @stereoboomer As my username suggests way back in the summer I was getting over a complete knob called Martin who had screwed me up and then ghosted me. I joined MN just to chat having seen THAT thread and to try and get over my heartbreak. Well my itch has certainly been scratched, my heart has been mended, my mojo has been found. Any ladies who want recommendations for good chatting men please ask me. Honestly. I have found some real gems.

Rudeboi · 06/01/2023 20:32

MovingonfromMartin · 06/01/2023 20:28

I agree @stereoboomer As my username suggests way back in the summer I was getting over a complete knob called Martin who had screwed me up and then ghosted me. I joined MN just to chat having seen THAT thread and to try and get over my heartbreak. Well my itch has certainly been scratched, my heart has been mended, my mojo has been found. Any ladies who want recommendations for good chatting men please ask me. Honestly. I have found some real gems.

Nice!

Sparkybloke · 06/01/2023 20:36

Agree with @MovingonfromMartin...I've had some lovely conversation too...

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stereoboomer · 06/01/2023 22:12

MovingonfromMartin · 06/01/2023 20:28

I agree @stereoboomer As my username suggests way back in the summer I was getting over a complete knob called Martin who had screwed me up and then ghosted me. I joined MN just to chat having seen THAT thread and to try and get over my heartbreak. Well my itch has certainly been scratched, my heart has been mended, my mojo has been found. Any ladies who want recommendations for good chatting men please ask me. Honestly. I have found some real gems.

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MovingonfromMartin · 06/01/2023 22:16

Oh you know full well what I'm talking about OP!

Sparkybloke · 06/01/2023 22:26

Last chat sadly finished today. She decided to move on....hey ho....if anyone fancies saying hello I'd love to chat....

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stereoboomer · 06/01/2023 23:18

Anyone up?

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