How to improve communication re: desires

[Judeisnotobscure]

My DP and I have great communication in all aspects of our relationship, except he appears shy when I ask him what he would like me to do for him sexually. He generally replies that his greatest turn on is giving me pleasure and watching me cum.

Obviously this is wonderful, but I do wonder if he has ideas that he isn’t able to express. Any ideas on how to get him to open up would be gratefully received!!

One probably a keeper and that may well be it...could also be if he hears what you might be open to and encourage you him to think and share it could help him open up and you might get further along.

Good luck!

Try telling him some of your fantasies or what you would like him to do to you
Take the lead it will probably help him to open up about his fantasies and desires

Ooh great ideas! I find it easy to discuss my wants and needs! I’ll try doing that first and see where it takes us. Thank you!!

Mojouograde and weshouldtryit are online questionnaires about sexual fantasies

I strongly recommend Mojoupgrade; it is a foolproof way of finding out what one's partner might try/wants to try without anyone being embarrassed about expressing their desires.

+1 for mojoupgrade. There's a lot it doesn't cover, but it's a reasonable Yes/No/Maybe list and the format is non confrontational.
If your DP finds expressing his desires difficult, weshouldtryit might he a bit too unsubtle.
Good luck ❤️

How about buying some karma sutra playing cards or a similar game and start by looking through them and maybe making jokes about how that look difficult or saying I bet we could do this etc.. might open him to saying no or yes but you could gauge his mood and then surprise him by acting out one of the positions

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My partner can be shy about face to face communication about sex but we both found mojoupgrade a great way to communicate our desires