18+ If Your Don’t Want To Read Sexual Things Please Don’t Read

[Bellasara121]

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Right ladies now you have had your warning I wanted to chat sex well more rant about sex! Me and my husband have never done well in the bedroom we just don’t match. We have been married nearly 5 years tighter nearly 8, he has a heart of gold determined brilliant at jobs you name he is the best man you can get apart from 1 thing sex 😩

I was so horny tonight like literally dripping horny ( I’ve been watching the new Netflix’s release lady somethings lover). The only thing I wanted tonight was my brains fucked out in all positions you name it he could have done anything to me tonight for a good few hours. (Like that game keeper just yum). So start getting with the hubby the only thing he wants to do is stick it in me no foreplay or what ever ect. He rubs it against my arse and comes within 5 minutes leaving me so unsatisfied so I end up banging it out on my toy for a good hour. He can never last longer than 7 minutes, I do take it as a compliment that he can come so quickly by god he’s unsatisfying and he has been the entire time we have been together. I know no one is perfect in life so I accept his downside in the bedroom. I just wish I had a game keeper of my own😛. And thank you for reading my rant

Nothing to say, just a big virtual hug for you.

We have a few adult boardgames, best by far is Monogamy
It's an hour or so of foreplay building up to some great sex!
It's also an opportunity to share fantasies etc

It's not easy to hear 'you're crap in bed' but it sounds like you do need to talk with him about your needs.

You absolutely need + deserve fore play! Honestly I wouldn't be so bothered about him only lasting 7 mins so long as there's plenty of fore play beforehand. Talk to him!

@Bellasara121

jeepers make him go down on you first

Did you watch Last Chatterley's Lover together or in your own?

For women it’s not “foreplay” but Core Play, in other words it is a core part of female sexuality, all one part resulting in PIV or other ways to orgasm. Thinking of it as “foreplay” is using men’s sexuality as the standard. Getting a woman sexually excited enough to be receptive is essential to good sex. Going straight to the money shot is usually extremely boring for women.

Sex is pretty shit without foreplay, no way I’d be entertaining sex if he couldn’t even be bothered to attempt to get me there. I have no tolerance for selfish men in bed.

Sex is a shared pleasure (unless you're masturbating alone) and both or all people need to be stimulated and excited by the other.

Sexually arousing another is a great part of sex for me, from kissing neck, and ears, stomach and arms before moving on to nipples and caressing boobs/chest working my way down to licking pussy or sucking cock, having the same done to me. and it's a good while before we start the actual fucking

I wonder if there is some doors he hasn't unlocked yet?
It could be that once the two of you have talked properly about both of your needs, the value of physical to you, you listen and validate his needs and wants you could move on to fantasies.
I've found that whilst it's been said for decades about women's minds being the biggest sex organs that more men than you think have a similar need. They may not have realised it tho and that can take time and effort to uncover what unlocks them together.
It could be anything and I mean anything, so good luck and hope together you find your fun!!