Ever been with a man who is only turned on by your pleasure not his own?

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dating and sleeping with a new man. It’s lovely but he is only focussed on making me come via oral or normal sex. When we talk about what we like it is entirely focused on me. Is it possible his fetish is watching me come? I can’t get him to talk about anything else. I have no idea what he would like. He doesn’t have an answer when I ask him except he is going to do X and Y to me and I will come harder than ever. Surely that’s a bit avoidant if he can’t communicate about his own pleasure?

I would be quite happy if I met a guy and he was entirely focused on me, I take it he is able to orgasm himself?

He can orgasm himself but it leaves me not really knowing him. How do I ever know what he likes? It it’s a serious relationship is that it for the rest of my life? All attention on me?

I could have probably been described like your partner at times in the past, so thought I'd share my experience in case any of it seems relevant.

I definitely love seeing a woman I fancy/love come and would very happily focus on that. So assuming he's doing a good job you shouldn't worry about just enjoying it!

However, while I genuinely love the above, my main problem with saying what I would like my partner to do was getting over my anxiety that she might do what I like but secretly thinking 'Ugh, that's not really my thing, but I guess I better do it'. Obviously good communication should mean that isn't a problem but not always that simple.

What helped us was my partner being a bit more assertive. On occasions just telling me she was going to do X, Y, Z like your partner is at the moment. That way I didn't feel she was just doing it because I said so, but she would ask now and then, if I liked what she was doing, or if I want her to do X next. Then over time that just encouraged me to be a bit more vocal on what I liked about what she was doing and generally communicating better about what I wanted from her too.

OP, how long have you been with him? It sounds a good start to be honest, but l would push further on the ‘what would you like’ thing because the best sex us shared sex. Men often are less communicative from my experience though and less fussy about what leads to ejaculation.

Probably don’t push him to verbalise, try doing something to home that you are willing to do, massage him, fondle him, take him in your mouth if you want to. He will surly let you know if he doesn’t like it

My new bf is a bit like this. He's come out of his shell a little bit and I think at the start he gots in his head a bit. Me enjoying sex is a big turn on for him- I've suggested/tried some stuff I think he would like and he just says "but I don't understand why you would want to".

There are way worse things to have in a relationship than this and I'm hoping with time and practice he will relax a little