Anyone ever feel like being naughty instead of being the “good girl”

[KatieByTheSea]

Maybe it’s just me, I feel that for my whole life I have done the right thing. I never did anything naughty, or different. At this stage of my life I feel I should have experienced life.I should have done crazy things. Does anyone feel the same?

I posted recently about getting a VCH piercing but of course the “good girl” in me has talked myself out of it. I so want to do something where I’m not the typical “good girl”.

It’s probably because of the stage of life I’m at that I feel like I should have stories to tell..Be them good stories or bad stories, at least have stories. I’m sorry I’m probably rambling. I just wanted to get it out, I’m feeling particularly frustrated today.

Does anyone else feel the same, or did they ignore the “good girl” and do something different?

Ha lol. Yes I have been similar. Good girl and progressed well in my career. But fancied doing something that felt naughty after my friend confessed to wanting her clit hood pierced. We plotted to go together and I had it done when DH was away.

Shit ...I felt def naughty at work the following Monday..thinking I'm in a senior position and people would never imagine me ever doing something like that. DH was very surprised and delighted as well when he discovered it

Im generally the good girl. But I do have a hobby where Im not. People in real life wouldn't guess what it is because I'm generally good and fairly boring! 😂

Did it hurt? I really want to get one, and from researching online I've found most people saying that it was bearable, but the one person in real life I know that has hers done said it was agony and has been hell to heal!

If it is within your bubble and no-one other than you or, maybe, your SO just do it. Anything outside your bubble needs consideration as you may get different responses from different people.

If you can keep it anonymous then outside your bubble may work but you may have to be thick skinned. Many people are very "brave" with their anonymous comments.

What stage of your life are you? And are you in a relationship?

For me - I never tried to be good on purpose. Had a regular busy life and did regular things as life was busy. Having kids takes a lot of time and a lot out of you.

Then when the kids became more independent and needed me less, I started having time to try new things. Also helped that my bf was on the same page.

Piercings weren’t really something I thought of as particularly out there. I am much more into actual experiences.

I'm not sure I ever was a "good girl", I was a fun girl, but I operated a pretty good smoke screen for those I did not want to share everything with.

I draw the line about having my bits pierced though. I would love to have my nipples pierced but don't have the courage, plus I have read too many grim things about the healing being poor due to constant movement. I tried having my naval pierced on 2 separate occasions and both times the body rejected it.

So I'll remain a fun girl (if you can be a girl in your 40s) in other ways. To quote Alicia Keys "This girl's on fire"!

I really hate this good Vs bad misogynistic trope. Really grinds my gears. Must we categorise ourselves like that ?

@Melonapplepear - I couldn't agree more. There is never reference to a "good boy".

I was once told by another woman on MN that they had names for girls like me when they were at school.

Why the label? Just do what u want (without hurting others) and be happy. Is getting a piercing down there being bad? No! Is being Conservative being a good girl? No! I got out of a bad relationship after 14 years and decided to do things for me....so sleeping with 2 or 3 different guys a week. Was I being bad? No. Just having fun. Just be you and enjoy life.

@NIparty

I think the anticipation is worse really. Some sort of numbing agent was used (not sure what) but no it can't take the pain away. However, it was literally split second and ok once done.

I didn't have any problem with infection at all. Obviously was scrupulous with hygiene when healing..although didn't really take much healing

I was a little worried if there was enough to pierce as I am rather "neat" below but it was fine and I'm really pleased with it. Yes it does feel a little naughty

I don't really understand the labels "good" or "bad". It's entirely subjective.

I suppose I could be considered "good"... I have a professional career, I bake cakes for the PTA sale and cheer from the sidelines at football matches.... but I'm also very "bad"... I like BDSM and group sex and posting naked photos online.

I had a VCH piercing this year. I also wing walked for charity. I suspect it's all part of my impending midlife crisis!

If you want to experience new things, go for it. It's nobody's business but yours and you're a long time dead!

There are lots of pressures to be a 'good boy' in some communities and sub-cultures.

In evangelical Christianity, for example, most men feel a huge burden to conform to certain expected standards, especially sexual, and constantly beat themselves up about lustful thoughts. There are endless 'accountability groups', where guys hold each other to account for masturbation habits or (worst of all) sex outside marriage. In some communities there is unbelievable pressure to be a good boy, especially sexually.

I just mention that, as it's too easy to caricature things as 'Women=slut-shamed; Men=allowed to get away with anything'. It's not always the case.

Couldn't agree more. What is good or bad? I love bdsm also but to me that's not bad, that's just what I like. Too many people like to label

Thank you all for your replies. I'm finding that since my DC no longer need me I have more time to myself and when I look back at my life it seems that I have lead a very dull safe life. I have had a good life, but I crave excitement.
My DH and I have spoken often about how I feel. All he wants is for me to be happy. All I want is to feel excited. Is it possible while being a "good girl"?

I think you've just repeated the same question as in your OP...

I'm always on the lookout for additions to my naughty list🎅

Yep stuff being good!
Tried that for donkeys years and what happened? Husband left me for a naughty girl!
Did me a favour though as I’ve now discovered my naughty side and loving it!