New parent: Sex Tips/Advice

[RiaG91]

I'm a fairly new parent and I live with my fiancé.

We've been together for coming up 3 years. At the beginning of the relationship we were very sexually active and full of list for one another.

It settled down as we moved in together, although we still usually had sex numerous times during the week.

Throughout pregnancy... and since... we've not had sex once. It has now been 17months.

I've tried to instigate it and I've had discussions with him about the lack of intimacy. We've had a lot going on as a family and with work stress too, but I feel like there has to be a point somewhere where we just put that down to being an excuse.

However... I could just do with your tips or advice on how to manage the bloody horniness! Before the baby came I didn't have any issues with satisfying myself, although my partner didn't know about it! But for some reason I feel like I can't do that now. When I even think about it I feel ... squeamish? Dirty?

I need some tips to help me get back to a sex loving, fulfilled goddess 😂 PLEASE

Talk to him, like properly. For some men the transition from couple to family can be tricky and it might be he's not found his place in it all yet. Also I think some men need a bit of help in seeing their DP in their new dual role.

Alternatively and if you are feeling totally wild, drop little one off with a family member before DP comes home, dress in whichever way works for you both and jump his bones when he walks through the door. Sometimes things can get over thought and getting straight to the meat of the matter can work.

Good luck and buy a vibrator as well.

It is natural for both men and women to have a reduction in libido after childbirth: it is Nature's method of ensuring that the newborn has the best chance of survival if it does not have a bunch of younger siblings. Having said that, it is obvious that your sexual desires have resurfaced while those of your partner have not.

I think that there is sometimes a sort of psychological block with men who used to lust after a woman but have an issue when that same woman is now a mother.

Whatever is the source of the lack of intimacy, I would strongly suggest that you open up channels of communication as soon as possible. If you have a child with someone, you really ought to feel comfortable talking to them about your feelings.

Best wishes.