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[Mandy391]

Me and DH are very much in love we have been together 24 years, we have a very active sex life, we have had 3sums before now we r thinking about me meeting men without DH which I really like the sound off but not 100% sure yet has anyone else done this.

(the other male)

I've been the other M both where the F didn't want her DP knowing anything about me, and also where DP did know me & was happy for F to have her own space for fun.
They told me that their "reuniting" after her foray away was always special.
(I doubt I was her only other M)

We've all moved on now, years later, but feel free to ask anything if you want the other M perspective.

Op, as long as you and your partner are completely sure about it, then go for it. Life is too short.

But, meeting another man seperately is VERY different from a threesome. It completely changes the dynamic. What does your DH think? Is he excited by the idea, or just ok?

He really has to be on-board with the idea. There are lots of different kinds of relationships that match what you are thinking of - you will have to discuss what part, if any, he plays.

Is it going to be "stag & vixen", cuckold, something else?

Talk, set your boundaries, join something like Fabswingers, and go for it!

Thanks yes DH is totally on board with it all .

I meet a "hotwife". Not very often. A few times a year. There is no chance of us getting emotionally involved with each other. It works.

She does however meet another guy. She meets him regularly. Every couple of weeks. She's not in a poly relationship with her husband but she's in love with this other guy.

I spoke to her the other week and she seemed upset after the high of a meet a few days earlier with him.

Just be careful. I think one offs are less dangerous.

You do both need to be 100% sure about everything going into this.

My wife and I both have others we meet, often alone, and occasionally as a threesome with her main FwB, but we only do this after we had a series of very honest and frank discussions about it.

Will it just be one person who you have regular sex with.

How often would this be? A weekly or monthly limit?

What about overnights? Would this be at your place or his.

Would staying in a hotel be acceptable, if so just one night or a weekend or longer away.

What if you meet someone else you would like to have sex with.

What is out of bounds? For us, it's anal sex.

Would you kiss each other? A greeting kiss or passionate full-on kissing, which we do with all our partners.

Would you inform your husband of what you had done or would that remain private. We find it is great discussing what we have been doing

Would you be OK if he decided to have sex with other women without you?

We both get great joy from having sex with others and there has never been a single pang of jealousy, in fact it enhances our own sex life.

Good luck in whatever you both decide together.

⬆️ Well put sir, exactly my sentiments, just much more eloquent than myself 😁

I think if you’re going to open your relationship, you need to be prepared for any eventualities. Some people can easily separate sex and love, others not so.

We navigated this by going from group sex to full swap in the same room, to full swap in different rooms, to both going on a play date on the same evening and meeting up later, to either of us going on a date while the other stayed home and watched Netflix!

I think doing it gradually like that, with both of us having a good time, made the transition easier.