To wonder how men feel ..

[IndiGlowie]

As women we all know that moment when we realise we are invisible to men . To most women it's a relief . As sex is such a big deal for men I wonder how they feel when they realise they are no longer sexually attractive to young women. Surely they too must become invisible to the opposite sec?

With old if you look at the research it suggests most women swipe on the same men for the most part.

I suppose we're attracted to those we're attracted to but it does seem evident that if a small group of men get all the attention they have little need to behave well ( which is obviously a very different issue as to HOW they should behave).

I've mentioned this before but it seems quite triggering for some on the forums like the relationship board.

I think it must be difficult go from being very desired by many men to getting little attention from the group you want. Which I think is different to men as most of us never get that much in the first place so are for the most part I suspect more pragmatic about old etc.

@Talon01
yep, if never got much attention in the 1st place getting older doesn’t matter, if anything it’s changed abit, ( excluding OLD which is a waste of time), but talking to women in my 50’s is much easier ( or I care a bit less, not sure which)

I've always been oblivious to it but apparently in my 40s I'm still getting attention. I was out with a friend a few months back and he commented about a few women who couldn't keep their eyes off me. I never noticed it and wouldn't think I'm particularly attractive so don't put yourself down as you might not notice the attention you're getting.

I don't believe it for one minute! You'd be surprised who folk are staring at in Tesco.. 😉

I think I am becoming invisible to women,so sad

@IndiGlowie When you say it's a relief to most women to become invisible, is that received wisdom or backed up by statistical evidence? I hope I never become invisible and I see plenty of evidence that I'm not alone.
I wonder whether this question would fit better in the Feminist forum.

Yep a relief it to be ogled at . No more dirty comments and pestering in general . It's true there is even a government backed advert on TV about tackling violence abd harassment toward women and girls

In my mid-40s. Now and always totally invisible to women.

Unless I'm wearing a suit! I have the figure for them and I do seem to project badass rather than estate agent when I'm wearing one.

I'm invisible to my wife FFS!

@IndiGlowie There's a lot of options inbetween inappropriate behaviour iand being invisible. And some of it is quite nice.

@stereoboomer that's sad to hear. Have you told your wife that's how you feel?

often

This men stop looking is not necessarily True
not is the ‘invisible ‘
im 49 and I take care of myself
now I don’t get the same attention as a 15 year old in my school uniform (🤮)

but I don’t do badly either

ask me when I’m 79 however 😜

I can't speak for all men, but I felt invisible to girls as a teenager and never really felt like things changed. I'm married, and my now-wife pursued me more than I pursued her way back when, but I guess I would say that I've always felt invisible, and I'm surprised when that's not true.

Confidence is always attractive in a man.so I don't think men have quite the same experience.

Masculinity, being in charge, intelligence, much more important than youthful looks

I am 76 now & the only times i have got attention have been when i have had my motorcycle leathers on. If i go into town on the bus in normal clothes i feel completely invisible, on one occasion, i was so invisible the bus driver never saw me & did not stop.

Yep, the only time women look at is when I’m in my bike gear, even then it’s in distain even though I’ve probably got over £1k of gear on