How do I know if I'm bi or a lesbian?

[Confusedasshit]

I have always been aware I'm attracted to men and women, before I even knew what bisexuality was. It was never weird or confusing and luckily I have a great, accepting family.
I've only ever been with men, purely because I live in a small town and don't know any gay/bi people 😂 the city next door has a great LGBT+ scene and I've been clubbing there a few times (always while I've been in a relationship though!) and I've tried lesbian dating apps but I've come to find out I have quite a specific type 😅 so it's slim pickings.

Anyway I saw a tiktok the other day, and this woman was basically asking if you're actually attracted to men, or if you're just fulfilling a deep subconscious need to please men (I'm probably butchering it but it was something to that extent) and its been burning in my brain ever since.

Because I've never actually been with a woman, I always thought maybe I was bi but preferred men, but I've also heard tons of stories of women who didn't even think they were bi, got involved with a woman and not only discovered what an orgasm was but also discovered they were actually lesbian the whole time 😂

Has anyone got any experience in this area? Any suggestions? I've also come to the realisation that I'd definitely want to be intimate with a woman (before I thought I wasn't sure but now I know I'm just nervous about it lol) but I have no idea where to start or anything!! Lol thanks in advance!! ❤

I'm not sure why anyone has to label themselves these days. Go with the flow.

Yes some of those apps like tictok seem to go to 100mph from standing still in less than a second. It gets a bit scary.
I made a friend on this chat thread and we talk about sex. It seems a gentler way in.

If you're sexually attracted to men I don't think you can be a lesbian. I am a bit confused over my own sexuality. I am and have been more attracted to more men than women. There's maybe 2 or 3 of women I have fancied sexually. I've had sex with 2 women, but that was really about experimenting, one was a friend and one was a woman I met online. I didn't enjoy those experiences at all and if anything it turned me off and made me think I'm definitely straight. So I can have attraction to women but I can't do the sex part. It doesn't make sense really.

@Confusedasshit I recognise what you are describing. I can definitely look back on some of my encounters with men and realise that what I thought at the time was attraction to them was actually a subconscious need for them to find me attractive and that I was looking for some kind of validation.

I'd still describe myself as bi though as I have, over my lifetime, experienced genuine sexual and emotional connections with both sexes. I have always been more interested in women although my sexual/ dating history would make me look much straighter - men have always been more a

*more available
that should have said!

I don't like labels. You find attractive the person who excites you. For me, that has always been women, but for you its a mixture. Just go with it.

I think that people overcomplicate things. It's good to analyse things but there is a tendency to overthink. I think that if you are attracted to someone sexually then you know. It's not because you feel obliged to. Go with your instincts.

I am very attracted to woman. Iv never been intimate with one though. After I split with my long term bf, I was missing sex and was really fantasising about woman. I am a perve and point out a womans nice boobs or ass to my bf all the time. I don't consider myself bisexual though. I'm just a sex addict lol