I have namechanged for putting my first post in this section. Hope it’s not TMI for you all but given this part of mumsnet I thought you would be ok with it.
I am not really sure why, but in recent months, my libido has gone through the roof , my DH’s not so much but stayed about the same . He has always been a vanillary sort of chap. Though we have had our moments of excitement to be fair. Anyway fair to say, I think I am a little more adventurous . So to satisfy this (and maybe increased it as well) I have resorted to porn and some “me time” which has been fun and I have picked up ideas along the way.
Ice cubes - tick; electric toothbrush -tick; phone vibrator app -tick: you get the idea. Would love to be a Bdsm sub but I don’t think that will happen. DH unaware of all of this.
The last couple of times we made love , I did suggest newer positions and in recent months I have instigated more oral on him which he never wanted me to do - consents now if he has just showered . So he is responding a bit to my wants.
This morning I asked him to go down on me and use fingers at the same time. I did say that he would probably need to use more fingers than he used to use. It was great and then he finished with some very vigorous fingering which was very intense and I really enjoyed. He went into me using a newer position we tried before, also great, soon after I orgasmed.
I think it may of been that vigorous fingering which made me feel a bit sore internally after. I did have a hysterectomy earlier this year. Maybe that’s why I need more to get any feelings? But I loved it!
So what to do ? I don’t want to put him off and go back to vanilla sex but at the same time don’t want to physically hurt myself.
Any advice?