We found out we were pregnant mid September but unfortunately, after an early scan at the hospital we found out we had possibly had a miscarriage, we had to go back after 10 days to confirm it and it wasn’t just the dates being mixed up )i knew my dates as i track them). It was probably some of the worst 10 days of my life. I didn’t know if I had a healthy baby or if I was going to suddenly start bleeding, I didn’t know what to expect. I also didn’t want my DD and his kids being here when it all happened. I didn’t want to have sex whilst waiting in these 10 days because I didn’t want any bleeding or pain to start whilst all the kids were all here and I wanted to control it to a degree. Anyway after 10 days (exactly a week ago) we found out we had miscarried and I chose to have a medical miscarriage. I arranged for my DD to go to her grandparents and my OH postponed his kids visiting that night.
Three nights after this all occurred we woke up and he said “I had a really naughty dream last night” Considering it had been about 2 weeks since having sex I wanted to know what it was about, not because I was feeling horny but just for curiosity etc. we can’t have sex for another 2weeks!! He then proceeded to tell me that I laced his drink with viagra (he has never used it in real life) then I called my girlfriends over all who then took advantage of his state. Apparently I just kept going into check to make sure his heart was ok and he was ok - no sexual acts took place between me and him!
Considering what I am currently going through and the fact he has previously been unfaithful, I really could have done without knowing about this dream!
He says its just a dream but I’m not sure, it’s made me feel really insecure and not good at all.
I’ve been considering leaving him for a while, we have been together for 6 years, I’m 35 next year, I sold my house to move in with him into his rented house (with the plan to buy with him chain free although given the current climate thats not possible), yet I have no commitment from him at all and there is not even a hint of commitment coming!
Thoughts please?