Sex and kids

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Does it matter if kids hear their parents having sex? Does age of the kids change your answer?

Obviously it's not ideal but it's bound to happen accidentally some time. Most kids won't know what they heard. But if parents are obviously, loudly having sex not bothering if their kids can hear then it's totally wrong. Parents should be discreet . Kids don't want or need to hear that at any age.

Well I’d rather it didn’t happen, and would take steps to avoid it happening as much as possible. But it does happen and isn’t the end of the world

Devil's advocate here :
What's wrong with kids knowing their parents have a positive, intimate, physical relationship? Teach kids that sex is shameful and they will perpetuate society's dysfunctional relationship with sex.
(And yeah, I know it's not that simple.)

I'm paranoid about it. My bf and I don't live together yet but I won't have sex with him when my kids are in the house. It frustrates him and we are going to work on it but I'm not sure how.

God no. To be avoided at all costs irrespective of age.

I'm fairly relaxed and my kid once walked in and through the night as he felt unwell.. we passed it off as wrestling but he knew. Asked me the morning after if we were doing it. He was 12. And I said yes. He said well I'm pleased you amd dad love each other.

What a fantastically mature way for him to look at it.

Yes we did but obviously try to keep the noise down obviously

@Scottishguy I was surprised by his maturity, but I've always been open and honest about body parts, relationships, sex etc. I believe if he's old enough to ask the question then he deserves an honest age appropriate answer.

@DementedPanda I think admitting you were having sex must have been the easy part. The hard part was bringing up a 12yr old with his head that screwed on. You've done a better job of parenting than I have. 👏

Nowt wrong with them knowing about it, you can talk to them about loving relationships but they don't need to hear it. I heard my mum and dad once and I was mortified. I still cringe now. I've never had any problems in that department though 😁

Unfortunate thread title

It's the other way round with older children....the last thing I want to hear through the wall is them at it!!

Gosh no I don't want my kids to hear us .

Worst is times like on holiday. Both me and OH are more in the mood but we have kids sleeping either in the room. or adjoining room depending on hotel. Can be torture!

Not that I particularly wanted to hear either, but hearing my parents have sex was a vast improvement on the shouting matches