Not interested in sex anymore.

[CoffeeGirl]

Hi all.

For the last year or so I've just lost all interest in sex, I don't really get in the mood for it anymore and I dread it when I feel like I've got to because my husband wants to.

I don't even know why I don't even get horny anymore (sorry can't think of a less blatant way of putting that).
I have had a baby 6 months ago and was obviously pregnant before then. But pregnancy and having a baby didn't make it so I didn't even want sex when I had my other two children. I actually had sex 4 weeks after number 1 and 6 weeks after number 2. This time I've only had sex twice in the last 6 months and both of those times were only because I felt like I ought to since it had been so long.

It was my birthday yesterday and my husband tried to have sex with me again, it didn't end up happening because I ended up just recoiling into myself at his touch. I just can't seem to want to have sex, I try to, I try and build myself up to it, or get myself in the mood so we'll be able to but nothing works. I don't know what's wrong with me.

Any advice would be great if anyone knows ways I can fix it, or why I just don't have the desire anymore. Thanks.

How old are you, @CoffeeGirl ?

Following with interest because my libido has collapsed too. But I’m mid 40s. Just don’t like the idea that that’s my sex drive just over. :-/

@Daftmum47 I'm 23, so definitely not at an age where its considered normal 😅

No, you are very young!

But the last year or so takes in when you were pregnant, and the first 6 months of your third child!

I think with 3 children I’d be too exhausted to ever contemplate sex! Maybe just give it a bit more time. Or go and see your GP to get your hormones / thyroid / iron levels checked out.

What she said...definitely get your blood work done by the GP and explain what's happening, just in case there is something going on you aren't aware of.

7 months postpartum with no3 and good god the idea alone is awful. I'm a fair bit older than you though op. I'm 34.

@CoffeeGirl as others have said your just probably too exhausted. The hormonal pill can cause a lower libido but for women most sex drives don’t pick up or hit your prime until much later so lots of life to live.

Does your dp help much with the kids and give you time to yourself?