Red flag?

[summersunshine46]

I’ve been dating a guy for couple of weeks now. First date we got really drunk and we slept together (wasent great), second date we slept together but he told me again becuase we had alcohol he wouldn’t be able to so we did in the morning and was good.
we met up this weekend and the date felt very different, when we got into bed that night he said he has a condition which he suffers from called delayed erectile dysfunction meaning he has problems and he can’t finish. the next morning he quickly got out of bed and put his clothes on.
He told me a couple of times that he liked me but I didn’t say it back as I felt like it still really early days.
But I do really like him. I’m just really confused now becuase he’s gone really quiet.

Its always hard to understand what may be going through anyone's minds, esepcially at such an early stage of a relationship.

It could be that now he has told you of his condition, he could be embarrassed, and he may assume that it is something that would make you feel differently.

When someone has something that potentially impacts their self confidence, it can manifest in a number of different ways. If he has said he likes you but you haven't said it back, he could be feeling a bit rejected.

However, that is not me saying I think you should have said it back. You should only do that when you feel it genuinley and feel that you want to say it. It is just if someone says it, and the other doesn't, they could end up feeling a bit foolish.

When you say he's gone quiet, has he stopped replying to messges completely?

I agree with @Funberry He's probably feeling embarrassed that he's shared an intimate issue with you and worried that you'll not be interested.

It's only been a few days and there's no rule that you have to wait for him to contact you. Just drop him a line and ask how his week is going.

If you like this chap, you're probably going to have to build his confidence up a bit. That said, next time you see him you might want to explore why he thinks he has problems cumming. Is it just nerves in a new relationship or does he experience the same issue when he's on his own? Talk about it rather than letting it become the elephant in the room.

@PinotPony Yeah I think you’re right when you say I perhaps maybe need to build his confidence up a little. I think discussing the elephant in the room too is really something that needs talking about. He obviously feels comfortable talking about things, although he’s always had a little something to drink.
@Funberry he didn’t reply until late the next night so I suppose he didn’t go quiet for a day I just started overthinking.
Hes initiated everything so I’ve just asked if he fancies meeting tomorrow? I never ask out of fear of rejection but I suppose I’ve got to get past that too.

When he said he liked you did you say anything at all? Or did you just stare at him! Of course you don't have to declare deep feelings if it's too soon but there is nothing wrong with reciprocating by telling him what you do feel. 'Thank you. I've enjoyed our dates so far and am keen to see where this goes' or 'thanks! I'm enjoying spending time with you too' or 'I don't tend to rush into things but I can tell you that I'm enjoying our time together' .... whatever you are feeling. Especially after he disclosed something potentially difficult him.

I can sometimes suffer from the same condition as him, it’s delayed ejaculation, which can indeed mean sometimes I cannot finish, it’s caused a few relationship issues for me, and can be awkward / uncomfortable/ embarrassing to talk about.

if he has told you about his issue and that he like you, but you have not said anything about it, I imagine he is feeling pretty rejected by you ( I think I would).

There are two basic problems for men.
The big one is erectile dysfunction, and the main causes for ED are too much alcohol, certain medications, age, and stress (new relationship, insensitive talk about it!).
The other problem is delayed ejaculation. Causes here are as for ED except for the alcohol.
But delayed ejaculation is unlikely to be a problem for a man unless his partner makes an issue of it. Sometimes I am slow to cum, or don’t cum at all, but my partner understands I’ve had a good time and she will have had her share of orgasms.
So don’t make an issue of it, if he’s been hard and met your requirements, and enjoyed himself, then he’ll be OK with it. Perhaps you don’t cum every time, but still enjoyed yourself -it’s the same for him.
And if you like him don’t be afraid to express it and encourage him to do so too and get on and enjoy yourselves in the bedroom.