Anyone else’s partner thinks that sex is standard my twice in a night

[Absolutelygreatnot]

Is it normal to have sex twice in one night on a work night? My partner thinks it’s standard. Not only is it painful but I’m just dam right tired ! Is this what society is doing…. Anyone ?

No and it's ridiculous to say that. More importantly, if you don't want to, you don't want to, period, regardless of what's standard (which is isn't)

Noo

I would be quite happy with once a week atm never mind twice a night 😂

OP, how old are both of you and how long have you been together?

I have known twice in a night but that was a special night full of passion. It certainly would not be the norm.

Sex is about the sharing of bodies, it takes 2 to want to share. Neither should sex ever be painful.

Aa far as I'm aware there is no social narrative that dictates twice a night. This is just about mismatched libido and your ability to communicate.

If it's painful and you don't want it then that's it. I hate having sex only once on a night so twice is perfect for me. Twice every night? I could also do it happily :D but that's me. You are different, we all are. If you don't want to do it, you shouldn't.

Painful because I have a female health condition which I’m awaiting surgery for. I’m 40 and he’s 45. Been together a few years. I mean it’s not always twice a night but that as because I have to limit it otherwise he’d be happy to do that most nights. I can’t keep up. Definitely mismatched libido’s

Bloke here for reference. If you don't want to have sex then you have to tell him. No conditions. It's your body. You don't need an excuse.
I'll be magnanimous and presume he doesn't know.
If he does know then we're going down a different avenue.

twice a night (or afternoon maybe), in the early days of a relationship

These days twice a would be a lot

When I stay at my bf on a work night we have sex sometimes 4 times and then again in the morning - that's normal for us, but when I was with my ex once a year (if I was lucky) was the norm

What im attempting to say is for all couples normal is actually different