Because you post on the Sex board

[Estherpologist]

Periodically I've had 4 or 5 random messages that seem to be linked to the fact I post on the Sex board. They've ranged from comments that could more appropriately have been posted on a related thread, to today's pointless and curt "Hiya". One was a borderline proposition and I reported it to MNAdmin.

How common is this and if you get them, do you report them to admin?

I haven't to be honest, only as a result of the sex chat thread, but other than that no.

I'm happy for people to message me when appropriate. I've had what I would term as a polite proposition, which I politely declined and that was the end of it.

Following on from the content of a particular thread, I've had someone come to me asking for help and advice which I was happy to try and do. Whether they benefitted from it or not, I don't know.

I've also had contact from what I think was a journalist, which I ignored. I have never felt the need to report a message thankfully.

Some men appear to think that any sex positive women are up for anything. Others will opt for calling us names because our sexuality terrifies them.

This is - seemingly - pretty common.

Was your "hiya" from a username starting with an A and ending in a number?? That person has messaged several women who have all posted on a thread about their attraction to women. Clearly he's not one for reading the room... or the thread.

Yep!

Yes had messages from a nice female poster and we shared several messages for a couple of weeks some of a sexual nature , some not , all encouraging and positive , after a while both agreed to stop messaging for a while and thanked each other.
Sometimes nice to chat to someone openly not in real life .
Had a message from a male creep who I blocked .

l’m always happy to engage with someone who wants to participate in a meaningful and constructive conversation. But not with someone who wishes to try their luck with me.

Seems he likes to contact men too.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

I've had a couple of folk whose username starting with an A and ending in a number contact me, along with a couple of other fellas recently.

I've had 2 messages now from Amos. Poor grammar on the first message. This person has now added a different number in the last message.

I've never posted about an attraction to women. I'm a 100% straight. So it's not that.

I've not had any ...
But then I've also done OLD and a LOT of sicus media and never had a dick pic or dirty msg there either.
I must come across as a very good girl !

I replied to a thread and got DMd by A**s. He didn’t realise I am male and seemed disinterested upon finding out 😂

I (male) was messaged and it became one of the loveliest convos I've had online, and not about sex at all.

In the past I've had inappropriate messages from guys who've seen me post on the sex board. Ranging from sleazy to aggressive. I just ignore them.

I've had a fair few messages from people who wanted advice, which I'm always happy to give.

The online sex chat thread has prompted quite a few messages, some good, most rather dull.

Illiterate Amos is clearly going for the scattergun approach... well doesn't that make us all feel special?!

Yes, did get Amos, even though original request said I prefer F. He did admit to being a man and was quite polite when I said no. So, no complaint.
Women who send one message and disappear even after I reply are very annoying though.

It's not uncommon on that thread unfortunately - quite a lot of people flit in and out. Maybe they lose their nerve, lose interest think better of it or just like mucking people around. Best not to take anything on a thread like that too personally or too seriously perhaps?

I've had a few messages.

Always positive, sometimes sexual which is OK.

Not had to block anyione.

What I’m fascinated about is why are there so many , SO MANY men on this board?

do they all sit there typing with one hand? Are they over excited to give advice to women ? Do their wives know they are posting on here?

I just don’t get it - why? It’s almost like any post has a chorus of “man here!”

i think once we’ve answered this question then we’ll know why people get these DMs. It’s because a fair few I reckon are absolute chancers living in hope

delete me MN HQ I’m just saying it as I see it

I’m happy for either gender to post, l do suspect hairy arms at play sometimes though. Particularly when people ask a question(s) but don’t provide any context.

I don’t like it when men think because a woman can be positive and articulate about sex, they are in on a “promise”. Men can learn a lot for seeing things from a female perspective though, although l was once called “shitty” by a man on here when l said I would not have sex with someone who would not go down on me.

SavoirFlair,

I (male) sometimes chip in because it's an informative discussion board. In my experience (both online and in RL) women talk more intelligently about sex than men.

I'm not interested in off-board sex chats by DM. It would cross a boundary for me, being the worn-out, droopy-eyed, armchair-hogging, greying, grizzled, comfortably-jumpered, stiff-backed, prematurely-aged old paterfamilias that I am.

@Catullus5 - 👏 We (women) try to help and educate where we can when given mutual respect 🤗. I’m happy for anyone to message me if they have something meaningful to say/ask with a respectful approach.

Throughout history woman have often been called names for expressing their sexuality/needs which has led to caution and not leading life to the full, but l digress; I’m good at that!

Thanks @StarlightLady and you are one of a (small) number of contributors whose posts I look out for, so thanks for them too.

I can understand people (of either sex) PMing someone when their particular problem/issue/question is relevant to their own experience. Then PMs can be useful and interesting. Likewise if someone says "PM me for chat!" - fine.

What's a bit inexplicable is when someone PMs you to tell you about their special fantasy, which has absolutely nothing to do with what you've posted about. That's just entitlement and extraordinarily pushy. It's not threatening or scary or nasty - it's just very, very self absorbed and makes the Sex board feel a bit like it's got a load of men (sorry, but in my experience it is only men who do this) lurking about purely to get off by pushing their fantasies onto unsuspecting women.

I think it would be weird to pm someone unless discussed or asked for on the open board on any thread

Ah, so lots of you get these messages too. I did wonder if it was just me.

I've laughed off the non serious ones I've received and always responded to those who are asking for help or politely taking things from a thread onto DM.