Weak orgasms?

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Question for other women mainly.

Does anyone else have pretty meh orgasms and all around pleasure?

I don’t have a problem with libido, arousal or having an orgasm, it’s just all very ”okey then”.

I’ve read how some people seem to view this as a greatest pleasures and couldn’t live without it (great for them, btw), but to me it’s just one thing among things.

It’s all pretty meaningless to me…

@KatieLatie
Yes, I’m sure I’ve reached to an orgasm, no stopping too early.

But they are always very much okey, that’s done - let’s move on.

I have wondered also if I don’t realise the happy hormones after, because like I said, it’s all very underwhelming for me.

Yes I think mine have changed since having kids (being more preoccupied/ stressed). Definitely less intense now. Sometimes I can barely even feel the orgasm pleasure because it's so minimal... but I know it's happened because my vagina sort of pulsates internally.
Even if I've been v aroused and enjoyed sex.

I'd absolutely love a mind blowing orgasm.

For me it depends on the build up and length of time of foreplay and PIV. For me a quickie is nice but the orgasm isn't generally as intense as if we have been playing for a while, especially oral and him doing that to me. Generally though very intense with waves rolling through me and vagina contracting strongly. DH knows as he says he can feel it grip his penis

Maybe take more time and do different things to get more worked up?

Mine have varied a lot - depending on the guy, my tiredness or not etc. However the most intense ones have definitely been when I've orgasmed just after the guy has cum in me - whether in a condom or not. Is there any way you could time it so that he lets himself go (or cum!) just as you're nearing your orgasm and see if that improves the experience? Not easy, maybe, but something to try.

Are you taking any kind of anti-depressant medication? They can massively affect the ability to orgasm and the intensity.

@Mxflamingnoravera is that a thing? ADs meaning harder to orgasm and they can be weaker? That would be a eureka moment for me if true!

Of you look up side effects of most antidepressants they all list sexual dysfunction and anorgasmisa as potential side effects.

I had this when I was on anti depressants.

@Mxflamingnoravera if you don't mind me asking, what were your Orgasms like before ADs, during AD use, and then when you came off them?

I couldn't orgasm at all on AD's, I'd get to a plateau and nothing else. Without AD's I can have many types depending on how turned on I am, whether it's clitoral or g spot. How I get there also makes a difference, masturbation orgasms can be a bit meh, but orgasms from oral from a partner can be explosive.

No, I’m not on any kind of medication.
Never been.

There can be manor factors I think, from stress, medication, not a good place or time, a lack of connection if/when a partner is involved. I would experiment with different things. I have been visiting someone who has helped me enormously so it can change.

Kegel exercises help (pelvic floor).

You haven't mentioned how you are achieving climax, but is there another way you can try?

Mine vary in strength from day to day, I also think my cycle has something to do with it. They are at there strongest around a week or so before a period. But I don't think it's just that, if I "let go" too soon, not always fully controllable I suffer as a result. Have you tried not going for it when you get very near?