Stitched too tight?

[KazMa]

I gave birth 4 months ago - had an episiotomy & first degree tear. This was stitched up very carefully as the Dr that did it was training some midwives to took the time to show them carefully how. All is healed down there… but I feel like I’ve been stitched too tightly! Sex is very uncomfortable and it’s very hard to get ‘it’ in…just feels like that area is blocked.
I also bought some pelvic floor exerciser balls but couldn’t fit them in!

Any advice or help?

(stitches were checked at my postnatal appointment and all was normal)

This happened to me and wasn’t fixed until I had my 2nd child and another 2nd degree tear. I spoke to the midwife after having dd2 and she agreed to stitch instead of a doctor. I haven’t had any issues since.

I would speak to your gp, make sure they take you seriously and don’t fob you off with the whole “you just need to relax” thing.

I’m terrified of the thought of having another baby in the future! I really didn’t want to tear again as recovery was so painful this time 😩

It was a "thing" sometime in the past, called the husband's stitch added to maintain a tightness for the husband. Totally barbaric if you ask me. Don't put up with it. Go and get it examined and fixed asap.

www.healthline.com/health-news/husband-stitch-is-not-just-myth

Ask your GP to refer you to Gynae at the hospital for an examination. You'd be surprised how often this kind of thing happens.

My recovery 2nd time was much quicker. When I had dd1 I swore I would not have another, her birth was awful and painful. But if I hadn’t have had dd2 my issues wouldn’t have been sorted and sex would still be painful.

Seems like a massive own goal to me. If it hurts, women will refuse to have sex. I guess it came from the time men could force their wives and it wasn't considered rape

The Dr that stitched me up (male) actually turned to my DH and said “you won’t even notice the difference” or something along those lines (I was very out of it!) My DH also recalls him saying this and winking at him 😣 Now when I think about that I feel like he stitched me up tighter than normal.

I want to do this but don’t know what the solution will be.. I can’t bare the thought of having my stitches opened and redone 😭

At 4 months, you'll be pretty well healed. I doubt they'd open your stitches up. More likely to give you dilators to use.

But I'm a medical negligence lawyer, not a gynaecologist. You need proper medical advice.

Ok so I felt the same after having my daughter 6 years ago !!!
me and my OH still do not have PS and I have been diagnosed with vaginismus which is an involuntary tensing of the vagina. Give it a Google. I’ve spoken to a therapist and all sorts. If you are still having the urge to have sex though, take that as a positive x

I had this, I “joke” that the work experience kid sewed me up as it was so incredibly tight. I couldn’t manage putting one finger inside let alone a penis. I tried a few times and it ended in tears seconds later. It wasn’t until forcing my mooncup in when my periods returned at 18 months that I could manage sex again. I honestly had thought my sex life was over forever at 28.