It's been a while. We've been together a long time and that side of things has really slipped due to health problems, shift work, stress and grief. We have both been skirting around the issue but now recognise and agree we should both get on with it to help restore levels of intimacy.
I'm so nervous , perhaps it won't be the same as before or be disappointing for either of us? Truly and honestly we are soul mates and I can't imagine life without him. The only one for me for the last 25 years. He is also in good shape..me not so much. It's an awful cycle...I know intimacy helps me feel better about myself, valued, less stressed, closer to DH and appreciative of home life but when I get in my low self esteem 'funks' it is the last thing I think about /want to do.
DH has also admitted he has let things slide due to working late shifts / tiredness and his previous health issues (he had a racing heart scare last year and was quite anxious lots of time off work).
Has anyone been in this position before? I read on here a lot about sexless marriages but I feel the big difference with us is that we DO adore each other, and can quite happily plod along without sex. We like spending time together and he still makes my tummy flip after all this time. We just haven't been having sex.
Any confidence tips appreciated.