Been with DP a year. He's been having on/off ED the entire time. He will occasionally take a Viagra, but never likes to presume sex is on the agenda, so the hour it takes to kick in means the moment has passed when it begins to work.
For me, decent sex includes PIV. He easily makes me cum orally, but PIV is where I get the most enjoyment.
We were away for the first week of August, and he only entered me once, the last day we were away...and even then he lay still on top of me while I got off. He knows I like this- I enjoy making myself cum on him while he's inside me, then going again with us moving together. But there was no moving together after.
After the event, he immediately started telling me how he's got himself tied in knots and is really struggling to maintain an erection, even with the Viagra and he didn't want to talk about it on holiday. We'd talk about it after.
I then went away for 2 weeks with DC. He went away for 2 weeks with his DC the day before I got home. A whole month not seeing each other.
Prior to holiday, I can think of a handful of times when PIV has happened since January. If I climb on top when he's hard, he shrivels inside me within 30 seconds.
We see each other 1-2 times a week, so there's no opportunity for loads of sex to help him move past this. I rarely sleep over... which is frustrating as I've experienced that morning sex is better for his erection. I'm using my vibe an awful lot, both with him and alone.
Seeing the GP has been suggested, but there's a bit too much male pride for that to happen. The more of a deal I make of it, the more pressure he'll feel. Which isn't going to help at all.
Where do I go from here? As sex with him just isn't doing it for me.