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My husband is losing interest

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fdkc · 17/08/2022 21:53

Hey all, lately I have noticed my husband is losing interest in sex with me. He rarely initiates it now and when I do he goes along but I don't think he's that into it. We have always had a pretty healthy sex life and he has always shown me that he loves and fancies me despite three children and aging. We are together 20 years and are in our very early 40's. We usually have sex twice or three times a week but it's been 8 days since we last had sex and he hasn't come near me since. I'm almost 100% positive he is not having an affair. His phone is always lying around and doesn't have a pin code on it so I know I could look at it whenever I wanted. He works in construction with males only so wouldn't develop friendships with female co workers. There is just something nagging at me though and I can't put my finger on it. I'm worried he might fancy someone else.

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Cakeandcoffee93 · 17/08/2022 21:56

talk to him- it’s only been 8 days- you never know if you drag it out for 2 weeks you might have the hottest sex and he might initiate it. Sometimes making the regular irregular makes you appreciate it more.
Just ask him if you are both ok. Maybe there’s something else bothering him and it’s probably not another woman.

notlongtoo · 18/08/2022 11:57

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JuliaMumsnet · 22/08/2022 12:10

Hello@fdkc - FYI I've moved from the guest post board to the sex board.

justabagman · 22/08/2022 12:17

you could be dressed up for him as soon as he gets in from work as a surprise. see

justabagman · 22/08/2022 12:17

see how reacts, good luck x

CuriousD · 22/08/2022 13:48

Could be a health problem.

Choconut · 22/08/2022 13:55

Just because he fancies someone else doesn't mean sex with you would stop - more likely he'd just be doing it with you and fantasising about them! Have you talked to him about it? He might just be getting older, a bit tired and in a bit of a rut. Perhaps you could agree to make some time together and get someone to have the kids for a weekend or something.

HowlongWillThisTakeNow · 22/08/2022 21:18

In the big picture 8 days is not really much, ask him what is on his mind

Whatliesbeneath707 · 23/08/2022 07:31

Is he knackered or stressed? Or has he needed to take any new medication that might have changed things for him?
We could all suggest lots of things that it could be, but you'll only really know if you ask him. Talk to him & see what he says. Is there an opportunity to go out for a meal & plan a nice evening?

ThinkOfABetterUsername · 24/08/2022 14:01

Toys and porn. YKIMS

ThinkOfABetterUsername · 24/08/2022 14:01

To spice things up, I mean. Not instead.

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