Illness, porn use and Us...

[coronakings]

My partner of two years and I enjoyed a healthy sex life until he bacame unwell some Months back.
The anxiety, fatigue and low mood associated with the porn use was discussed with his Dr who told him that his feelings towards sex was totally normal.
He is a generous lover and we've discussed this at length.
My pleasure is his priority and his is mine.
We don't live together so see each other every weekend nd this suits us both perfectly.
I asked him recently if he is having a wank mid week and using Porn.
He said he does ... once or twice a week but his fantasy always comes back to me
Giving him
Oral sex which drives him crazy.
I have no issue with porn fwiw, as long as it doesn't affect our sex life.
However, while he has absolutely no issue getting and maintaining many erections over an evening , every evening we're together; he struggles to cum unless we do it from behind, which I love.
He doesn't cum when I give him blow jobs or wank him although he absolutely adores this.
He says he is completely fulfilled sexually with us and cumming isn't the end all and be all for him.
He can cum if he wanks though.
We are very affectionate, loving and generous towards one another sexually.
Any tips please?have I anything to worry about regarding his porn use ?

Recently I had an open and honest conversation with my DH where he admitted wanking more then I realised and he now realised it was stopping him coming when we were together despite previously talking about it and he had previously denied it. Maybe another approach to the conversation and perhaps it is happening more then he realises or is willing to admit?

Perhaps.
I suppose I am confused in that he is always aroused when touched in any way but has said that he is a little nervous surrounding the physical
Act of intercourses due to his illness.
I have no reason not to believe him but have said that while o have no issue with porn use or masturbation , if it affects our lovemaking, then it is a problem.
Do
You think that this is the problem?

I'd like to suggest coming at it from a different angle (sniggers lol). My guy at the beginning had this worry - i.e. taking ages to cum - he had lots of history associating sex with guilt. The pressure built so much that it began to feel crappy. Instead we took orgasms off the table - if they happened, great, if they didn't so what.

You both seem to care about the others pleasure... so thats great! Pleasure is not all about the ending...just enjoying the journey is. Please try not to fixate on whether he prefers porn to you. Or wanking vs having sex with you. By the sounds of it you enjoy intimacy together...thats the main thing! And some men (like some women) can't cum in all positions - we talk all the time about some women not being able to orgasm through VP - that's the same with guys.

Funny You should say that ... I've never cum through PIV and couldnt care less as I much prefer manual stimulation followed by intercourse so I guess it is horses for courses! I don't even enjoy oral
Thanks for your reply.

Your post is a little confusing.
You mention his illness affecting sex life, and him being self-conscious.
But then jump straight to his wanking and porn. And then mention you have sex and he has erections but only comes in his preferred position.
Is his illness making him wank more? Or has the Illness changed how he is able to orgasm? Or how often you have sex?

As to having a preferred position - it’s the way he is, just like you not orgasming from PIV.