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First threesome

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DidYeEye · 26/07/2022 10:05

Hello!

I'm on course for my first mfm threesome.

I'm in the couple, we have found someone to join us. It's all going well, we're discussing lots and making sure we are all comfortable.

Of course I feel a bit nervous though - anyone got any tips for a newbie? Things I might not have considered?

We've discussed personal boundaries each, we've spoken on video call and are having a social meet first, then a soft swing. We've discussed safe sex etc

I trust my partner, he knows me very well and is very reassuring. I'm fully on board and know that I can change my mind if I want etc so no concerns there. This is more practical and on the night type advice in looking for.

I think I'm more nervous of the pre bit if you see what I mean, once we're in it it'll be fine!

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GentlemanJay · 26/07/2022 11:48

I've had lots of mfm. Discuss boundaries. From my experience. The more you chat about it, the less likely it will actually happen.

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DidYeEye · 26/07/2022 12:29

Thanks Jay. Do you mean the more you chat, the less likely the event will happen? Or that boundaries don't get breached?

We are moving fairly quickly to the social as we're aware that it can all be theory and then the chemistry isn't right. All good so far though.

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Tiger2018 · 26/07/2022 14:59

you lucky girl ;) I'm yet to have that experience but have had 3somes. I'd try and enjoy the anticipation leading up to it as much as you can. Think about what you'll wear too - wear as sexy as you dare!

Kissing can be an area of contention with any couple adding in someone else - make sure you are clear what you are comfortable with. Oh and lastly, don't just write a boundaries list, write a want to try list! The other guy may suggest something you both find incredibly hot too.

Enjoy!

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DidYeEye · 26/07/2022 21:32

Good advice Tiger! Thanks. We have discussed some likes and I think this will amp up a bit as it gets closer.

I've just got visions of a very British evening where there's a lull in conversation and someone goes.... 'Right' either to signal the end of the evening or the start of the next phase 😁

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outdooryone · 26/07/2022 23:13

I've had this pleasure once, I suspect you will have a great time.

Real practicalities: such things as more than enough condoms, three glasses & water, lots of tissues, perhaps an extra chair in the bedroom, some towels and bin to hand.

I also found that there was a little bit of 'to me, to you' and lining things up more than usual. Arranging limbs and balancing is definitely harder!

ComtesseDeSpair · 27/07/2022 11:52

I've just got visions of a very British evening where there's a lull in conversation and someone goes.... 'Right' either to signal the end of the evening or the start of the next phase 😁

You may have meant this jokily but honestly - humour is an an excellent way to break the ice and help everyone relax a bit in a threesome. There will be awkward moments; there will be points where you have to untangle limbs; you’ll probably bang your heads together at some point. Whilst your primary objective may be the sex, the initial social meet is a really good opportunity to establish whether the guy you’re scoping out is completely humourless and taking it all a bit too seriously, or somebody you can rely on to keep the mood going and help you all enjoy it better. Whilst you may not be looking for or want to be his friend, ideally he should be somebody with enough characteristics that you could see yourselves being friends with.

DP and I mostly play with long-standing good friends, mainly because we enjoy it more; but when do play with women we’ve just met in party situations it’s the rapport between us which is key; it also means that it feels a lot easier during the sex to assert a boundary or say no to something etc, without it cooling the mood or putting things out of stride.

GentlemanJay · 27/07/2022 12:06

You can make these evening whatever you want them to be. No point being shy about getting things started. You are all there for one thing.

Slip upstairs when you are ready. Undress to your underwear. Come back downstairs and sit next to your second guy. He will get the message.

Regarding me comment about too much pre meet talk. Some "couples" like to talk about it via text or Kik. Very often it's the guy getting off on it. Usual these situations come to nothing.

One practical point. If you intend on having some food together. Save it till after your fun.

bedtimeisthebest · 28/07/2022 08:50

As a male I've had many threesome. Most have been MFF but in the past five years have been having MMFs too.

Some are not MM intimate but quite a few are.

Something that needs to be discussed. I never thought I'd enjoy MM cock sucking but now it's often part of our sex.

The first time I saw my wife suck on another guy's dick was so powerful.

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DidYeEye · 28/07/2022 15:40

GentlemanJay · 27/07/2022 12:06

You can make these evening whatever you want them to be. No point being shy about getting things started. You are all there for one thing.

Slip upstairs when you are ready. Undress to your underwear. Come back downstairs and sit next to your second guy. He will get the message.

Regarding me comment about too much pre meet talk. Some "couples" like to talk about it via text or Kik. Very often it's the guy getting off on it. Usual these situations come to nothing.

One practical point. If you intend on having some food together. Save it till after your fun.

It's funny you say that as its definitely amped up our sex recently and it did occur to me that if we left it there then we'd still have gotten that from it. We've similarly been messed about a little still so it seems to be par for the course.

Food. Noted. 😆

I know

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DidYeEye · 28/07/2022 15:42

Message got cut off!

They men don't want to play so I do feel a bit daunted at the thought of being the centre of attention at times. But I'm sure in the moment it'll feel great.

@ComtesseDeSpair humour is definitely my thing so I'll break the ice no problem. We're all quite similar and seem to be having a laugh with it.

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BatshitCrazyWoman · 28/07/2022 19:43

DidYeEye · 28/07/2022 15:42

Message got cut off!

They men don't want to play so I do feel a bit daunted at the thought of being the centre of attention at times. But I'm sure in the moment it'll feel great.

@ComtesseDeSpair humour is definitely my thing so I'll break the ice no problem. We're all quite similar and seem to be having a laugh with it.

Being the centre of attention is the best part!

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DidYeEye · 29/07/2022 08:07

@BatshitCrazyWoman I'm working on turning it into a positive!

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LoveSex36 · 29/07/2022 10:23

I like the idea of being centre of attention, I think you’ll enjoy it, obviously clear boundaries etc are important.

germsandcoffee · 30/07/2022 17:25

I've had ffm threesomes and humour is the deal for me.
Your all there for one thing so someone has to get the party started a straying hand usually starts the fun

scotsguy1314 · 02/08/2022 23:07

In my experience it takes the male partner to say something to the second guy to let him know you both are comfortable taking things further.

As long as your boundaries are secure and your communication is good you'll have a great time.

outdooryone · 05/08/2022 14:56

How did it go @DidYeEye ?

sammylady37 · 07/08/2022 18:25

From my experience, have a safe word with the new guy but also a separate one with your partner so that you can signal to him that you want to draw things to a close

bedtimeisthebest · 08/08/2022 07:18

Indeed. Always have a safe word that you all know that means I don't want to do this.

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DidYeEye · 16/08/2022 18:33

Hi all!

Thanks for the support 🤣

So it went ahead, and quite frankly it was great! I do think had two really great guys - my partner was really great in the lead up and throughout. The 3rd is really chilled and that's why we chose him.

We had a discussion and I laid out how I wanted it to go, so it was all about me really! The awkward part wasn't too awkward at the start. We moved things along quite quickly to avoid it.

Anyone thinking about it, it obviously depends on so many variables but as long as the foundation is good, you're doing it for your pleasure and not to make someone else happy, and you're discerning about who you choose to do it with, it can be a really amazing experience.

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sammylady37 · 17/08/2022 08:48

Sounds great op, glad you had a good time!

I’ve done this a few times and it’s great fun, as long as you’ve done the groundwork, which it sounds like you did.

happy days!

DesertOrchi · 17/08/2022 13:05

Male here,I should love to be involved in a 3sum with a MF couple

Mandy391 · 10/11/2022 21:55

I have done this too and had a lot of fun

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