Single sex isn't abundant

[shrekssister]

(Name changed for this)

I am single and have been for quite some time.

From what I've been told over the years from single male and female friends is that if I ever wanted just no strings sex it would be really easy, men don't turn down sex they said, as it happens, it isn't easy and I am being turned down (and my advances not being accepted).

I've come to the conclusion that I am just an extremely unattractive woman who will be for the rest of her life incredibly frustrated.

Carry on ---

I think it depends where and how you are looking, and how you make the approach.

@shrekssister - there are men out there for whom "any hole is the goal", but would you really want to meet one of them?

There are good guys out there, but as @Thisismysexforumname says, it depends on your approach.

What are you looking for? Something casual? Something serious?

What are you doing to try and "scratch your itch"? Are you on dating sites? Have you joined anything like meet-up? Have you looked at sites like Fabswingers?

Looking in the usual places. Dating sites.

I'm not even getting anyone who's remotely interested in sparking that kind of situation up. I've dropped a few crumbs but nothing.

Hmmmm seems a little odd. Are you being obvious about what you want? Sorry, I dont mean to state the obvious, but if theres any ambiguity that might not help.

@shrekssister - is there anyone you know and trust that would be willing to look at your profile(s)?

I'm on pretty much all of the on-line dating apps (for similar reasons, and trust me, it's twice as difficult for a guy - particularly one who is 60!), and I know what I swipe "yes" on, and what I swipe "no" on... Definite "no"'s for me are things like profiles with no pictures of the person (wtf is that all about?), usually profiles with only one photo and profiles with bad / out of focus photos.

Also as @Thisismysexforumname has said, are you making it clear in your profile text what you are looking for? Hints and ambiguity won't help. I will swipe "no" on profiles that definitely exclude the possibility of something casual, and always swipe "yes" if they have passed the photo test, and the text suggests the person is open to some fun.

As a currently single 52 yr old male on some of the sites you just need to be clear not on your profile really but on a phone chat .The decent guys who are looking for the same would really appreciate a women who is clear in what she is looking for, I know I would rather than going around in circles on endless dates which appear to go nowhere.

@Reddevilish - ah, but to get to that point, you have to have matched, chatted online, and gotten a phone number...

I always make it clear to a match that I'm only looking for something casual during the chat online phase. Puts 99.9% of women off, but they usually appreciate the honesty.

casual could mean ons, fwb or any number of things - just believe that some of those women may be more comfortable confirming what they are looking for once you start to evidence that you are as described.

The idea that women can ‘get’ sex whenever they want used really irritate me- I spent 6 years without so much as a kiss, not to mind sex, and it was soul-destroying. But what it did result in was me being much more specific and direct about what I want now. I’m clear and upfront. Also I use sites that are orientated towards casual sex rather than dating/relationships. Try fabswingers, but set your filters so that you can’t be messaged by new accounts, unverified accounts etc, or adult friend finder, or even fetlife, if you have a kink or two.

I would agree with this, ^^ I’m the same kinda age, and have previously been on a couple of hookup style sites for casual sex / casual relationship/ FWB things, some (not all), of the women who say are looking for casual are not really ,they are looking for dates and a full on relationship ( nothing wrong with that), using hookup sites to find a partner, lots of disappointing women not being truthful.