Can't stand my partner

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Don't judge, I'm just here for the rant.

For about a year now, sex between me and partner (both in our 20's) has become minimal. I bought it up so many times & nothing has changed. I am BORED. There's only so many times I can masturbate before that too gets boring.

I've got to a point where I rally just can't stand him, sex isn't everything but it is a lot and it's having a major effect. I don't even wanna be around him. I hide in the bedroom all day and everytime he comes in, it pisses me off. When he tries to cuddle me I feel claustrophobic and want him to just get away from me.

I do feel like he has a bit of a wanking addiction. I've never caught him, it's just a suspicion but there's been a time I've walked into the kitchen and he's got a boner and acting very shady and some other times. I don't care if he wanks but it isn't a replacement for intimacy.

The other thing is when we do have sex it's so boring, it's like the same routine. I like to be adventurous, try new things & add different items. He's just too lazy & wants to get the job over and done with. I'm just so sexually frustrated & pissed off right now.

No problem. End the relationship. You don't need any other reason than you don't want it to continue.

So much easier said than done though isn't it.

I couldn't cover London rent by myself & I've found out I'm pregnant - but it is only a matter of time

Apologies if my previous message sounded a bit brisk and lacking sympathy: it wasn't meant that way. Of course, the factors you mention are major and significant.

But it does sound as if the relationship has passed a point of no return.

@PotteringPondering no not at all! That is the easy choice in all this but the other factors are holding me here. That's why I came on here I need to let frustrations out!

My opinion will be unpopular but if your not happy and can't stand him leave him regardless of the situation you are in, it isn't fair on him to stick around for just those reasons if you aren't prepared to work on things as a couple and if a bloke said he was staying around because they couldn't afford rent every woman around would have something to say about that

If you're already bored and frustrated was a baby a really wise idea? The stress of pregnancy, new family and everything else will only build resentment further and lead to a pricier way of ending it down the line of you're already emotionally checked out of the relationship

It is what it is. Its not fair on you, and it's not fair on him to make him think things are proceeding okay, and it's not fair on any future child between you.

TBH i feel sorry for him

The pregnancy is the elephant in the room here. Your hormones are going haywire; some people find their relationships deepen during a pregnancy and some find the opposite and can no longer stand their partner.