Choking and enjoyment

[Tellmewhyyou]

Can anyone explain why they enjoy being choked during sex?

Are you doing this for someone else’s enjoyment or your own?

I’d say I am very open minded and would (and have) tried most things, but choking is a huge no for me. It feels very risky (not risqué) and I can’t help but feel that anyone who enjoys choking someone actually has something missing emotionally.

I’m ready to listen, perhaps I am wrong, but it seems to be very popular (or at least referred to a lot these days). I’m mid 40’s age wise.

Curious to see what responses you're going to get to this... my take is pretty simple... there seems to be a lot of weird kinks out there, and I am sure that some people love choking / being choked. Whether that number is 10% of the number that porn would suggest, or 1%, or 0.1 or 0.001% I have no idea, but I expect the numbers are tiny.

I'd also guess that the kink is about oxygen deprivation and that the "benefits" of that kink are best explored in ways that are less painful and less like to damage the throat.

My take is not based on personal experience.

That’s a good point regarding finding other ways to explore the kink.

My dp enjoys it (despite seeming pretty vanilla in all other respects), but I'm not sure exactly why. I wasn't entirely comfortable with it at first, but it's never more than a light hand around the neck, not a literal choking.

I guess there are two aspects to it, first is the power play - that you're putting your life in someone else's hands, and the trust that you're giving them with that. And secondly there's the physical element from the asphyxiation. I'm fairly confident that it's the former for my dp, because we never get as far as actual asphyxiation.

I quite like it, but it's more of a strong hand than actually not being able to breathe at all. I think it's power play and control? I'm not sure...but I naturally hold my breath when Im building up to orgasm as it feels good, so maybe it has something to do with that. If it's too hard/too long I just tap my partners arm and he stops immediately.