Doesn’t feel hard

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can anyone tell me the obvious difference between a full erection and semi please?
i don’t have much experience of sex but my partner never feels hard during and sometimes I can’t feel him at all. I can’t find much online and I don’t want to end up in porn territory finding comparison pictures so if anyone could help I’d really appreciate it, worried about hurting his feelings but I want to enjoy sex too

I can see why you feel so frustrated.

Does he make any effort to give you pleasure in other ways - manual or oral stimulation being the obvious ones? This is really important anyway, but especially when the PIV is so crap!

He needs to see a doctor - but are you suspecting he thinks there is no problem and that it's just normal?

thanks again
he knows it’s not okay but I think he’s embarrassed and I don’t talk about it with him. He’s not on anti depressants so it’s not that. No porn use, obviously I can’t be 100% sure but I’ve never seen evidence of it and he said he has no interest in it. No pleasure at all I have to sort myself out after I lay their bored while he hammers away with his floppy penis. we been together a year and its never been good so I’m going off him fast.

Oh jeez, if he's hammering away with his floppy penis and not giving a shit about you - walk away!!

That sounds awful. It's talk or walk I'm afraid.

His lack of interest in your enjoyment and satisfaction would make walk a significant bet.

Unless you've told him your happy with what's going on/faked orgasms?

So he's never brought you to climax through oral?

Firstly, as someone has already said, not all erections are equal, any more than boobs. Some are firm, others are floppy.
In my limitted experience, 25yr old men can be as fragile as anyone, so if you straight out tell him his dick isn't cutting your mustard, you could (not will!!!) push him further down a bad path.
If you haven't got much to compare him with (maybe you had 100 lovers, maybe just 1) other than Anne Summers' cheapest plastic vibe, are you asking the right question?
Try to put yourself in his pants, and hopefully you can help him understand what it's like to be in yours.