Can only do it once

topcat2014 · 28/06/2022 18:50

So, twice on one day? How old?

MrsBrollie · 28/06/2022 19:21

My husband can get hard again with in minutes but would not be able to cum again for many hours. There has been the odd occasion when he came twice with in an hour but I would say it’s been less than 5 times in 9 years. All in all I don’t mind cause I very seldom feel like going again within a short period.

Isitsixoclockalready · 28/06/2022 20:10

The refractory period in men is pretty well established.

LancashireLad · 28/06/2022 21:01

I'm guessing everyone is different in this and your DH s totally normal. It's been a fairly long while since I've tested this out but I'm pretty sure if I wasn't tired, had the time etc. I could ejaculate a second time within fifteen minutes or so (even at the grand old age of 56!) although for a third one I'd have to wait an hour or more. For any more I'd probably want to leave off for another twenty four hours.

But that's a rare thing and much more typically I have maybe two or three single ejaculatory sex sessions with my wife spread across a week.

LAlexander7 · 28/06/2022 21:28

MrsBrollie · 28/06/2022 19:21

My husband can get hard again with in minutes but would not be able to cum again for many hours. There has been the odd occasion when he came twice with in an hour but I would say it’s been less than 5 times in 9 years. All in all I don’t mind cause I very seldom feel like going again within a short period.

My husband likes having his balls squeezed and rubbed and perineum stroked when we're doing it a second time it helps him cum quicker.

Sparkybloke · 29/06/2022 07:58

The refractory period is well known. In my 20's could get hard and ejaculate three times in an hour...now in my 50's once I've cum it will probably be an hour or more before I can get fully erect again and ejaculate. Hey ho...the joys of age!

Sparkybloke · 29/06/2022 07:58

The refractory period is well known. In my 20's could get hard and ejaculate three times in an hour...now in my 50's once I've cum it will probably be an hour or more before I can get fully erect again and ejaculate. Hey ho...the joys of age!

HowlongWillThisTakeNow · 29/06/2022 09:47

Allnostalgic · 28/06/2022 18:43

Dh has only ever been able to perform once. So once in the morning, once at night. But he wouldn't be able to cum and then go again shortly afterwards.

I'm just wondering how usual this is? He's always been the same even in his early 20s.

Mostly it's fine but there are times when I'd like to do it again.

Partners I've been with before have been able to get going again within half an hour.

All man are different, ( as are all women) that sounds like just how he works,
I would imagine that such a long recovery period is pretty unusual and most men in their 20s could perform twice in an hour, but this decreases with age, for a man in his 50s or 60’s this is probably more common

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Standswitchshelf · 29/06/2022 11:42

I think the topic of 'male performance axiety' is a massive elephant in the room that isn't discussed that much - either by men or women.

I assume you are talking about PIV sex when saying your DH says he can't go again?

I can agree with that, although I find it really depends on the situation.
If I was having impromptu sex with my wife in the back of the car parked down a country lane - I think I could probably climax again.

I also know I could definitely go again if she wanked me off for the second time, rather than me being inside her.

I'd love to have a group sex experience to see if I could go again if I was having sex with another woman as well.

I think the more exciting the situation the better the performance really.

I can get hard again quite quickly, it all depends on the stimulus I guess.

Have you tried watching a sexy movie with him afterwards and seeing what happens?

cosmicbabe · 30/06/2022 22:44

To be honest. Once in the morning and at night your winning right?? What's wrong with that?

Anotherbloke1 · 16/07/2022 08:39

With my first sexual partner I could go 5-6 times a night (19yrs old then). Now I'm 46 once is enough but can manage morning and night no problem.

Ukelady · 16/07/2022 11:18

My DH has never been able to do it more than once a day, even in his twenties...

Joey69 · 16/07/2022 14:39

Once a King always a King, once a Knight is enough

lauraUK1000 · 18/07/2022 18:09

My hubby who is 42 could usually go twice but it took him a little time to be up and ready again. The main problem was him usually finishing too quickly the first time 😀He would definitely by fine morning, night and probably one in the day if needed! He said before that he could go multiple times quite quickly if he was having a long session masturbating.
Since he started on some meds (well actually a couple of months) he doesn't really 'cum' now so can go as long as needed. The doctor actually mentioned this was a potential side effect and one that some couples enjoy.

PaulChats · 24/07/2022 14:08

Hi. I’m Paul. Can I ask how old is your DH?

coolmaker · 25/07/2022 22:56

Allnostalgic · 28/06/2022 18:43

Dh has only ever been able to perform once. So once in the morning, once at night. But he wouldn't be able to cum and then go again shortly afterwards.

I'm just wondering how usual this is? He's always been the same even in his early 20s.

Mostly it's fine but there are times when I'd like to do it again.

Partners I've been with before have been able to get going again within half an hour.

All 3 of my long term partners would be the same as your DP, including my current one. I had assumed it was normal but after reading this thread Im starting to think it must be me!!!

None of them have showed any interest in a second round (unless a few hours had passed). Is this something I should be taking the lead on?

Joey69 · 25/07/2022 23:14

Different men have different recovery times and different appetites for sex, I don’t see the reason why you need to take lead really?, you could just mention it as in “it would be okay if you wanted to try again”, but don’t be too surprised if the guy he’s not able or interested,
as a younger man I could have sex and be ready again 30 minutes later, but as a older man (50+ ), my sex drive is probably declining a bit, sex is great when it happens, but I think if a women expect me to be able to perform twice in an hour they would be sadly disappointed and I would probably be quite worried and upset that I wasn’t “man enough” to satisfy my partner, and maybe even avoid sex in the future as it’s pretty tough when someone implies your not good enough in bed.

coolmaker · 25/07/2022 23:36

Thanks @Joey69 I'm definitely satisfied with once at a time (especially with current DP) so I would hate to give him the impression otherwise.

I guess reading this thread it sounded common for men to want to have sex 2-3 times a night. Given it's not something I've ever experienced with anyone I was wondering if 1) they've not been attracted to me enough 2) the sex hasn't been good enough, or 3) it was because I wasn't taking the initiative to try again.

Im reluctant to initiate a 2nd time for the reasons you've said but it just feels a bit personal when it's been everyone I've had a LTR with (even when I was in my 20s)

Joey69 · 26/07/2022 07:17

@coolmaker it might be common for some, but not all men, the few hours gap is probably about right I would say, don’t worry about the attraction thing or if the sex is good enough or not.

have a read about the refactory period for men and what it involves,

www.forhims.com/blog/refractory-period-how-to-shorten