Another oral sex one....AIBU?

[NameChangeJune22]

Please be a bit kind here.

DH and I are trying to get our sex life back on track after years in the wilderness (all sorts of reasons.)

I like oral (I used to feel self conscious but have almost got past that, IF the man is willing and happy...)

DH doesn't appear to like giving but is oh so happy to receive (of course.)

I've challenged him as I've decided I can no longer keep quiet about my 'wants'.
He says he likes giving 'if he's in the mood' for it.

Is that reasonable?

I don't really understand that because to me it shows a lack of enthusiasm and maybe a bit of selfishness?

I don't have the urge to go down on him but I do (I'm neutral over it. I don't dislike it but do it for him as he enjoys it and that gives me pleasure.)

I can't decide if he's just being selfish , or if he doesn't like giving and won't say, (I've pushed and he says he does like it but always adds when he's in the mood and turned on) or I'm asking him to do something he isn't happy to do (and I'd not want him to do it if he really isn't fussed.)

If he knows it's something you really like, then him saying "if he's in the mood" could maybe be translated into "if he can be bothered".

It's not him that's going to get physical pleasure, but he should be getting emotional pleasure that he's pleasuring you.

Stop sucking his dick, no one likes a man that’s selfish in bed.

I can't decide if he's just being selfish , or if he doesn't like giving and won't say, (I've pushed and he says he does like it but always adds when he's in the mood and turned on) or I'm asking him to do something he isn't happy to do (and I'd not want him to do it if he really isn't fussed.)

my guess would be, that is not really all that keen on performing oral but is too polite to say it