How many times was it before you liked it?

[cormorant5]

So for me sex 4 months before 16th birthday, a two year gap, then I really got to enjoy it.
My memory was jogged by a photo showing a skirt that I was wearing that summer 50 years ago. I had been determined to lose the Virgin Status before I was 16. He was the class Bad Boy. It was OK/nice enough, not painful and we did it every week through the summer holidays. Then I went off it and him both.
It was two years later I started sex with the class nerd. (We both did Maths). That was great, really lovely, and we carried on into Uni.
They are still my only sexual partners.

I think it was 3 or 4 times before I really got in the groove IYNWIM. But there was a bit of gap before it occurred again but it it was worth waiting for .............

I was having sex at 15 with my boyfriend the same age. We were inexperienced and don't think we were even doing it properly, I had my first orgasms through masturbation. I got to about 19 and had sex with someone else that I was shown how amazing it was meant to be.

I was 18 when I finally had sex with my long term GF. She seemed very prim and proper but with me she was a different girl when she was aroused.
Was very much a 'no sex before marriage' girl in a big way. Until her best friend 'did the deed' and told her that 'it feels amazing.'

That changed everything and suddenly she was very interested in doing it.
I used to go and visit her at University. One morning she suddenly announced tha she 'wanted me to go up her' - so with no protection that was that - just so she could see what it felt like. Afterwards she started crying and was really sad that she had broken some sort of rule to herself. She honestly felt she was standing for 'something' by planning to wait until marriage. She was also worried that her Dad was 'going to find out somehow.'

She decided that now it was over with she would like to try again. The next night I wore a condom and that was our first proper sex. Her quite terrified over getting pregnant and asking me (when I was inside her) "you don't have AIDS do you? (that shows you what the Eighties was like!) and 'promise me you won't come inside me') Not exactly a turn on!

I didn't know any different at the time, but looking back I guess that wasn't a great set of 'first time experiences.'

Things got better with more practice - she wore lingerie more and liked the effect it had on me. We found she preferred to be fucked from behind and didn't like being on top. She wanted to explore a bit and there was a brief period where she 'wanted to be kinky' which included wanting different things pushed inside her. I didn't have many things to hand, but I remember she did ask me to put a small Torch up her!!

I think I enjoyed it more with my second GF who was on the Pill. That made a huge difference to me. The feeling was much different and the feeling of ejaculation was so so satisfying. She also helped me a lot with her openness and willingness to have sex and enjoy it. She was much more comfortable getting naked and also in giving me direction. "faster, slower, harder!"

So it took me a good 18months before I started to really enjoy sex. Up until that I was far more into being expertly wanked off rather than penetration.

I'm still surprised by the memories seeing that photo stirred up. I went to Uni and got to know The Nerd better. We became FWB, but that term was not in use then, he dropped out. Later he went to prison for fraud. I did not replace him.
After finals I picked up with Bad Boy again. That was much more exciting. We carried on and married.
That is how I have only had 2 partners but so many memories.

My first was a holiday 'romance'. I was 16 and no clue what to do. Just lay on my back, didn't even touch his penis. No foreplay at all.
The penetration hurt and he was sweaty. I told him to stop after 5-10mins.
He was a nice guy actually, but my heart wasn't in it with him.

About 6 weeks later I met someone else. We waited two months or so to the DTD. Some foreplay, lots of kissing and I enjoyed it. We were together a long time and sex was good - not brilliant - but I did enjoy it. Didn't masturbate until about 5 years later

M here.

No, first GF I was with for six months at 17 and we didn't really click in that department - and I often couldn't cum.

Took second GF who TBH I liked a lot more to do the trick.

So really, it took me the best part of a year to discover how to enjoy.

Actually the very first time was great for both of us. It was with my first serious long-term girlfriend. She was 18 and I was 20 but we'd been together for a while and had already been physically very intimate for a year - regular mutual oral sex to orgasm, etc. - so were very familiar with each other's bodies. When the time came to have PIV sex it was a natural next step, relaxed and enjoyable for both of us.

I remember it quite clearly. It was on my bed and we were both aroused and physically ready. Although it wasn't especially planned we both wanted it and it was straightforward and comfortable for both of us.

It was in missionary position and although we didn't use a condom she'd just finished her period and was miles away from her fertile days of the month (although thinking back now that we took such a chance makes my hair stand on end, but luckily we were fine). It was early in the evening and afterwards we went out to the pub to meet some friends all the while knowing something really special had happened between us and smiling at one another for the rest of the evening.

After that we did it regularly - although we did use condoms from then on! We tried out different positions and a bit later began to include occasional anal sex.

That relationship didn't go the distance which really cut me up at the time. But it was a great start for both of us to the whole enjoyment of sex. The whole thing was a gradual process spread over many, many months lingering for a while over one stage of intimacy before moving onto the next which was the key for us I think.

From the beginning really. It was around my 15th birthday, l can’t remember if it was a little before or a short time afterwards. No “too early” lectures please, l’m in my 40s now and it did not scar me for life.

The first time was organised like a military operation. He was of similar age. He had been going down on me for some months previous and l was climaxing with him.

l never subscribed to this “lost virginity” nonsense. I didn’t lose anything.

Elder sister was my leading light and mentor when it came to sex. Plus, Mum was considered by some as pretty cool. She was the one my teenage friends would go to for help and support on all sorts during adolescence. If you were late home or didn’t do your homework it was another story though. She used to say that if something didn’t make you feel nice, stop doing it.

"organised like a military operation" - I love this. Can totally relate!