Hey ladies, in real need of advice! Sex....
I am very much smitten with my partner....5year together....
but....he has such a high sex drive and sees it as feeling emotionally close to me, and my sex drive has packed its bags for good by the looks...I'm sick of feeling like I have to put out because if its been 2 weeks or longer I can just tell hes getting down because he automatically assumes I'm not attracted to him..or he doesnt feel that closeness with me. I could go weeks without it and it wouldn't bother me. We very rarely go longer than 2 weeks.
Ive explained to him till Im blue in the face its not him at all, I just cant keep up. I'm on citalopram, I'm working, ive got a kid from a previous relationship and weve been trying for a baby and the whole baby making is exhausting...I don't want him thinking I'm just wanting sex when I ovulating...but at the minute thats literally the only time I feel frisky...but then I know pregnancy wont happen for us which again makes me feel like having sex is pointless in a way it only serves to hurt me each month seeing negative tests.
And above all our average sex lasts 45 mins...never shorter as it takes him a long time due to a medical condition. I cant exactly tell him its a big turn off...because its not his fault. It never used to bother me but I be happy having sex less frequently. The time is a definite big stresser for me.
He never ever makes me feel pressured but when he hints at me about sex I just cringe inside and I dont want it ðŸ˜ðŸ˜
Its definitely not that I'm not attracted to him, but its not nice feeling being turned off by his advances by either of us, I'm sick of pretending but when i dont respond to his flirting he does get abit down, hes not manipulative in anyway just to make that clear. I really dont know why I am this way ...but its getting me down so bad I dont know what to do, I'm constantly now blowing hot and cold, pushing him close and pushing him away but i love him and want to be with him. advice please