New man's behaviour in the bedroom

[Skynightsky]

We are at the 5 month mark and I've noticed some unusual behaviour such as not being able to finish, rushing when he gets an erection etc. I put this down to ED of course I can't be sure. The most unusual one is only having sex in the same position (missionary). I have instigated another position and he looked happy but he didn't take it and went back to missionary.

I know he has plenty of sexual experience so I don't know what is going on here, I have never experienced anything like this in the past.

If it is ED would this prevent him from having sex in other positions?

I have subtly spoken to him about it but don't want to press it too much as it is early days and he has seemed embarrassed about it in the past.

Bump

ED will have nothing to do with different positions. Maybe he just isn't interested in PIV in any other positions - some men aren't. Personally, I like to experiment, and will try most things at least once..

Not being able to finish isn't necessarily a bad thing - as long as he is taking care of you. I'm nearly 60, and sometimes can't finish, but I ensure my partner has a lot of fun!

Rushing when he has an erection - not exactly sure what this means, but ED would cause him to have difficulties getting and keeping an erection - you don't seem to indicate that this is the case. If by "rushing" you mean he finishes very quickly, he could also have PE. If this is the case, I'd recommend the use of condoms with a numbing agent in the tip. Alternatively, if he is capable of "repeating" fairly quickly, maybe consider something to make his first orgasm happen before you move to piv.

I'd also try talking to him again. If you can't talk about sex with the person you are having sex with, it doesn't bode well... Good Luck!

Have to disagree @AverageGuy My guy suffers with ED. He also has blood pressure issues.

He doesn't want to do doggie or my legs on his shoulders as he's worried the thrusting combined with the head being higher than the rest of his body will cause him to deflate. And the worry of trying it and it not succeeding causes him to deflate. So it's just not worth trying!

I also understand "rushing" when he gets an erection... When my guy gets hard, he enters me in missionary as soon as he can, as he's worried if he leaves it too long, he'll go flaccid.

All the worry about things ED related means he worries he'll go flaccid, which is a worry to cause him to go flaccid. The worry cycle in action...

Keep having those gentle discussions @Skynightsky . Phrase them in the "I really enjoy it when ..." "I can't believe the way you make me feel when you ..." Encourage him in the things he can do and you enjoy rather than ask questions which will trigger the head spin of ED.

All the best

@AverageGuy

Thanks you for your post. Rushing - meaning that he seems to want to get on with it as soon as he gets an erection, assuming it won't last long and he has never finished.

He seems to have difficulty getting and keeping an erection along with not finishing, this is what led me ED suspicion.

Thank you for confirming his lack of positions has anything to do with ED. I am still baffled by this. Maybe he just isn't interested in PIV as you suggest.

@Jumpking
Very helpful post, thank you.

He doesn't want to do doggie or my legs on his shoulders as he's worried the thrusting combined with the head being higher than the rest of his body will cause him to deflate. And the worry of trying it and it not succeeding causes him to deflate. So it's just not worth trying

This could explain his lack of diffrent positions. Thank you.

I also understand "rushing" when he gets an erection... When my guy gets hard, he enters me in missionary as soon as he can, as he's worried if he leaves it too long, he'll go flaccid

This also sounds like my guy.

All the worry about things ED related means he worries he'll go flaccid, which is a worry to cause him to go flaccid. The worry cycle in action

Keep having those gentle discussions @Skynightsky . Phrase them in the "I really enjoy it when ..." "I can't believe the way you make me feel when you ..." Encourage him in the things he can do and you enjoy rather than ask questions which will trigger the head spin of ED

Thank you for you advice. Very much appreciated.