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Do you think 30 sex partners by 30 is alot?

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Mynet101 · 24/05/2022 17:27

Hey ladies. Just wondering if you think 30 partners by age 30 is alot? personally I think its about right. A few people I know are way above that some less to so just wondering what other people have been getting upto throughout the years.

Thanks!

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Wherearemymarbles · 24/05/2022 17:33

Does it matter?
if you’re having fun thats one thing if sex is an emotional crutch to support mh problems then maybe thats another.

also depends on who you meet when

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Mynet101 · 24/05/2022 17:38

Thanks for the reply! I asked mainlybecause a woman friend I know has slept with about 60 men and and another 30 but the 60 struck me as quite high but she seems to think there's alot of women around that number especially ones that have been single alot in their 20s.

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Didimum · 24/05/2022 18:40

It’s neither too many nor too few. Have the amount of sex that’s right for you and everyone else can do the same. No one needs or wants your judgement.

Furrbabymama87 · 24/05/2022 18:42

I know women in their 30s who have been with 1 or 2 men and a woman who has been with over a thousand. To some, 30 may seem a lot but to others it isn't. It doesn't matter anyway.

Woodsie54 · 25/05/2022 14:17

30 is not a lot by age 30 IMHO. I married in my late 20's and was at number 19 and I am sure it would have reached 30 by age 30.

When in a relationship I think its best not to mention numbers or names or to be avasive about previous!

Kitten2 · 25/05/2022 17:30

No.
Not everyone is in long term exclusive relationships. People have months / years of being single.

Numbers shouldn't be such a big deal.

Lookingoutside · 25/05/2022 21:09

No

sammylady37 · 26/05/2022 08:45

I think it’s nobody else’s business and anyone who asked me how many people I’d had sex with would get fairly short shrift.

balalake · 26/05/2022 21:52

It depends on the circumstances. If you have been unfaithful it is wrong in my book regardless of the number of sexual partners in your past.

nutella8 · 26/05/2022 21:56

Yes, 30 is a lot...

altmember · 27/05/2022 00:24

I think it depends on context - if you're someone who has casual sex (no slight or criticism) then no, 30 isn't a lot. Once you get up to higher numbers the actual number becomes less relevant - 30, 60, 90 is neither here nor there.

People tend to be one way or the other when it comes to casual - so those who don't aren't likely to get anywhere near 30 in their whole life, those who do could easily be in triple figures. I think that's the only inference you can make from knowing how many previous partners someone has had. It doesn't matter, except perhaps if you're trying to work out whether they'll use you and ghost you.

My ex claimed to have had over 100 sexual partners before age 30, when we met. Compared to me that was a lot, but I assumed fairly normal for someone who's into casual encounters. I'd never normally ask a partner about their 'count' either, no real relevance, but ex wasn't shy about sharing details.

StarlightLady · 28/05/2022 06:57

I agree it’s not a numbers game. I certainly exceeded 30 by that age.

lt’s all about passion, discretion and privacy and nothing to do with anyone else. Would a man be judged in a similar way?

MightyFine79 · 28/05/2022 23:36

Going by the maths…if you start at 18 (ahem), that’s 2 or 3 per year or a different partner every 4-6 months. Doesn’t sound so bad, does it? And I agree, whatever you want is right.

Fuckoffeverything · 03/06/2022 22:14

Way too many

Ropesdope · 04/06/2022 15:54

I think it’s quite high but I suppose if you haven’t had many long term relationships it’s going to be quite high. My friend would sleep with any man who showed her attention. Some were absolute mingers but after a drink or 8 they turned into George Clooney in her eyes!

dumdumduuuummmmm · 05/06/2022 19:04

Furrbabymama87 · 24/05/2022 18:42

I know women in their 30s who have been with 1 or 2 men and a woman who has been with over a thousand. To some, 30 may seem a lot but to others it isn't. It doesn't matter anyway.

Good God 1000 in her 30s? where does she meet over 50 willing partners a year every year for 20 ish years? Or if she's been in monogamous relationships in that time it would mean outside of the relationships, what, 70 people a year? Is it related to her work?

Furrbabymama87 · 07/06/2022 12:24

dumdumduuuummmmm · 05/06/2022 19:04

Good God 1000 in her 30s? where does she meet over 50 willing partners a year every year for 20 ish years? Or if she's been in monogamous relationships in that time it would mean outside of the relationships, what, 70 people a year? Is it related to her work?

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She was just very promiscuous and loved sex. She had a mental disorder and I think it was partly down to that as most of them she wasn't even attracted to. I'm not friends with her anymore so I don't know if she's a changed or still continuing.

Fuzzyhippo · 09/06/2022 14:12

I had that many by the time I was 18 especially when I was going through a dark place. But I've known lots of others who have been with 50+ even over 100

CrazyCatLady00 · 09/06/2022 21:00

Gone are the days when couples waited to have sex. I’m 45 and honestly I have lost count 😬

Nonfunctioningpancreas · 10/06/2022 08:48

I'm 30 and have only had one, been with him for almost 13 years

StarlightLady · 10/06/2022 08:53

@Nonfunctioningpancreas - That was a late start in life.

Don’t you wonder what others would feel like?

Nonfunctioningpancreas · 10/06/2022 09:00

@StarlightLady I don't see 17 (18 by the time I slept with him) as a late start to be honest, I hadn't had an easy teenage life, I was groomed when I was 14 and it led to self harming etc so it took me time to trust the opposite gender, he's a couple of years older and I was also his first and only

Not really to be honest, we have a great relationship and I liked him years before he even knew I existed (I'd seen him around) so I'm perfectly happy only having been with him

StarlightLady · 10/06/2022 10:10

@Nonfunctioningpancreas- Sorry. Misunderstanding. I was subtracting 13 from 30.

The other question was merely based on curiosity because it's something I cannot imagine. I was not suggesting there was anything wrong with it.

StarlightLady · 10/06/2022 10:16

Correction: Wrongly subtracting 17 from 30. I read 30 but for some crazy reason I was thinking 40. Clearly I got up too early this morning.

Nonfunctioningpancreas · 10/06/2022 10:17

@StarlightLady I didn't think for a second you were suggesting there was anything wrong with it

He's kept me very happy and satisfied and I certainly don't regret only being with him, I'd had boyfriends but things hadn't felt "right" so I waited until it did

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