Partner interested in trying oral sex on me

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Very inexperienced and had only done it twice when young and didn't find it a good experience so reluctant ever since.
I can take it or leave it so I'm happy either way as he is very attentive and generous in bed .
He's anxious to please me of course and enjoy it himself but doesn't really know what to do!
He knows that I only want him to do what he wants in the area and that I am happy
And fulfilled, so no pressure!
I can lead him I guess but any tips/ hints/ links/ experts in the area , would be much appreciated.
We are late forties and have found each other after years of less than enjoyable or mutually loving intimacy .
Thanks.

Anyone please?

Justvtake things slowly. Let him know what feels good and what doesn't . That gives him reassurance he's doing okay and take it from there. Makes sure your both relaxed and enjoy it

Well... only if you want to, but communicate. Lots of naked kissing and touching first. Then let him know when you're ready.

1. no facial stubble... full beard or clean shaven for starters
2. make for easy access, either prop your bottom up on a cushion or sit on the edge of an arm chair with your legs hooked over the arms.

Make sure he goes gently (not too gently!) with a wet tongue up your "slit" towards and then past your clit like he's licking a delicious soft serve ice cream, then stop, see how it feels... tell him if you'd like him to do it some more, if he finds a rhythm you like, tell him or "faster", "slower", "firmer" etc
You may prefer slow, languid, 'laps' with a soft, wide tongue or delicate flicks on your clit with a pointed one... experiment, it's fun and can be a real art! Amazing to give and receive such enormous pleasure in such an intimate way.

Good luck and let us know how it goes

Thanks for replies.
I hadn't thought of clean shaven which makes total sense.
He is very bloody nervous but I don't want it to become ' a thing'.
Told me he was reading up on things 🙈

Oh bless him op. At least he's trying which is more than can be said for some men.

I never mind a partners stubble. Quite like it actually?!
I make sure I am fully waxed down there. A small strip on the top and everything gone from down below .. somehow makes it feel even more sensitive.

In my experience, as the woman, it takes a little while to really relax and start actually properly enjoying it. So don't worry if it's not immediately amazing. Give it time, let him be down there for quite a while. Have some music on that will relax you it really helps plus listening to the licking out sounds doesn't help me relax so a bit of music is an all round blessing.
Couple of glasses of wine beforehand too always helps.

It’s a matter of trying until you find something that really works for you, I prefer the tip of the tongue. If what he’s doing doesn’t work for you, do tell him. You can also ask him to use his fingers at the same time.

If you have taken care of yourself before and know what feels good try to replicate that.

I find that starting out slow and building up the pressure and speed works best. When I start to feel like an orgasm is close I grab his head and shudder into his tongue and create the speed and pressure I need to come.

After that first one (which can take a while to happen) I can have another 10-15 orgasms through oral.

Sideways is my favourite position, (ie he is at a 90 degree angle to you) it is easier for the giver and soo good for the reciever. It is called the Kivin Method apparently, I only found out because my partner, after a particularly good session called it the "Cuban" method and I googled and lo, it really is a thing and the most sensational for me. You can get diagrams and instructions if you google it!

I’d agree with this ( as a man), different partners have liked different things, so keep trying until you find something that works for both of you

My ex was very "experienced 🙄" and I'd never had an orgasm from oral before. So he knew loads of stuff to try to see what worked best for me. To be honest, I'm not really 100% sure what exactly he was doing down there, but he paid attention to my moans of pleasure and quickly learnt what I liked.

Hope it's going well. As he's been reading up and seems really keen- I'm sure you'll both find out what pushes your buttons in no time!