How to actually pleasure self

[Wazzagee]

So I feel a bit silly posting this, but I don't actually know how to make myself orgasm and I therefore don't know how to tell my oh what I like
I can orgasm but only through oral or vibrator on my clit. Not my my husband touching me or through piv. Even then I don't really know how it happens and think it happens as generally a tongue or the vibrators we use cover the whole area so my clit will be stimulated and I'll eventually cum. I've tried to work out what I like, what works for me etc but generally nothing happens at all and I feel nothing until I just put a vibrator on the general area and it will eventually happen.
It doesn't help that my husband, bless him, isn't the best either. We've been together years but he'll fumble his way around and not really know what he's doing or where he's going - and I can't even say 'I like ....' cos I don't know what I like! How do people actually make themself/get others to orgasm and how can I get to do it that I actually enjoy the process leading up to it!? If any of that makes sense...

I watch videos of George Harrison while rubbing myself hard and fast. I have a particular technique I won't go into here.
I prefer a toy though, it's more intense. If you like vibrators, you should just stick with that. The whole point is that it feels good.

Have a look at omgyes.com - lots of info on ways to find pleasure both on your own and with someone else.

I was very similar to you in that I could orgasm with a vibrator but had no idea what kind of touch I liked otherwise. What helped me was actually dedicating time to explore my body and allowing myself to focus on the sensations I felt, then allowing myself the time to masturbate with my hand and fingers. It took time (months) but once I got it I really got it! Now I tell my DH where I'd like to be touched and how so my pleasure is maximised.....still have the amazing vibrator of course!

I wanted to recommend omgyes as well :)

The Ferly app is very good too.

You sound a bit like me - but I can orgasm on my own without a vibrator. It takes a good 15 mins to get there and it is not something that DH can do (I need just the right pressure and motion on my clitoris and just inside my vagina - I can't explain it to him in a way that he can replicate it. Very occasionally, DH will ask me to masturbate and orgasm before we have intercourse - but most of my orgams are during PIV when I use my small bullet vibrator on my clitoris. I don't see a problem with DH being unable to "get me there" on his own - we feel that we have a good sex life and I get plenty of "duvet grabbing quality" climaxes even if they are delivered by a Duracell battery and not DH's hands. Why worry about the method?

If you are on Instagram @Wazzagee, look up @hellojennykeane
She posts lots of content around this and also does workshops on it. They are online & you don't have your camera on & everyone keeps their knickers on! She gets amazing feedback from women & often their partners. Worth a look.

@Kwiregirl

You sound a bit like me - but I can orgasm on my own without a vibrator. It takes a good 15 mins to get there and it is not something that DH can do (I need just the right pressure and motion on my clitoris and just inside my vagina - I can't explain it to him in a way that he can replicate it. Very occasionally, DH will ask me to masturbate and orgasm before we have intercourse - but most of my orgams are during PIV when I use my small bullet vibrator on my clitoris. I don't see a problem with DH being unable to "get me there" on his own - we feel that we have a good sex life and I get plenty of "duvet grabbing quality" climaxes even if they are delivered by a Duracell battery and not DH's hands. Why worry about the method?

What positions do you find easiest to use a bullet while having sex. Only tried this once but it wasn't great, my husband lost his rhythm and stopped until I finished and then started again which defeated the purpose!