Could you be with someone who doesn't do oral sex

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My bf doesn't go down on me. He won't talk about why but I think he just doesn't like it. I've never had this issue before. My ex would eat me out after I came back from the gym without showering as would previous bfs. I thought something would change in the current one but a year down the line it hasn't and I wonder if I'm superficial for placing so much importance on it. I think it might be a deal breaker for me... I always give him head. Always always. There hasn't been a single time when I haven't gone down on him during sex and I think this is just unfair. He also comes every time whether it's oral or vaginal but I don't have vaginal orgasms so I basically never come unless I touch myself. He won't finger me either.

Could you be with someone like this?

@Rubyroseyposey I didn't know she was lax in that department until we slept together. So I got my range of toys out instead, and I didn't sleep with her again.
If you don't understand why having a full Bush down there is less fresh than being bald, ask a friend. I guess as a bi woman I have privileged experience some other woman don't.

Not surprising how we're all different.

I love going down on my partner with that sweat of the day, musty smell on him. I find it earthy and it gets me going.

I love going down on my partner when he's fresh out of the bath and smells all clean.

I do different things depending on those smells. Big picture I guess is that I love going down on him, whatever!

Nope! In fact I informed a guy who seemed most surprised that it'd be a deal breaker for me. He then tried to backtrack and I pointed out I didn't want someone to force themselves to do something they didn't want to either. We never made it as far as the bedroom.

Watching with interest. I love giving oral -is my favourite thing but on the past haven’t felt comfortable receiving. My newish bf is very shy so we are taking things very slowly and he is getting more adventurous but has not shown any desire to fo it, but I am do much more lustful with him than with my exh that I long for him to and I think on time he will want to. Never thought that I would long for this thing Ihave previously not enjoyed, but happy to wait, and if he never does it he is still the loveliest man and I will respect what he feels comfortable with. He has never asked me for oral - his previous partners were not keen snd he assumed women don’t like it.

I couldn't be with someone who is happy to have oral given to them but doesn't reciprocate. It's a nope from me .

I'd rather not have oral sex than have to wax/shave all my pubes off all the time.

I agree. I used to enjoy oral but XH managed to put me off it by using it as an alternative to any sort of face-to-face interaction.

However, if I was going down I’d expect an offer to reciprocate. If you are getting no foreplay at all why are you servicing him?

Some men like going down, but some don't and probably never will. I enjoy pleasing a woman that way, but I've known men who don't like it and refuse to do it. One of my work colleagues said he'd never do it. He also used a very derogatory term for the female genitalia, which I thought was rather telling, although funnily enough he was very happy with BJs and PIV.

As per others, I think sex is a reciprocal task, If partner expects me to go down I expect the same back

This make it seem so transactional. I don’t expect precise reciprocity. Both parties do what they are comfort with. I really, really like fellatio and don’t really like oral on me so for me not a deal breaker as long as I get what I like.