Faking it

[SuckIt]

Long term relationship. Good sex life. Frequency is fine and generally good connection.

However, we’ve been really busy lately and with work, parenting, and I’ll health taking its toll we are having an increasing number of quickies as opposed to taking our time.

I enjoy a quickie but have always found the mental
Pressure to orgasm quickly overwhelming. I’m happy for it to be focussed on his orgasm because I still enjoy it even without an orgasm.

However my partner is very orgasm focussed and always likes to make me cum, but this only adds pressure! So I sometimes fake it.

And then feel bad.

Do I carry on faking it or do I have an honest conversation? How do I do that without admitting I sometimes fake it.

Also can you tell when a woman fakes it? Especially if you’re in a LTR with them and you have experienced hundreds and hundreds of genuine ones!

I wouldn't tell him you've faked it. You could say you're going through a rough patch at the moment and are finding it's taking longer for you to orgasm and tell him the things you need him to do to get you there.

I would be mortified if Mrs F faked it
There have been a few times when she has had things on her mind wanted sex for the intimacy and connection and has initiated ( times when I know she has a lot on her mind and was just going to hold her close and go to sleep)but has said she wants to feel me cum but is unlikely to get there herself
We take our time lots of close connections neither of us feel any pressure we just enjoy the connection
She does sometimes cum sometimes not it is not any sort of a let down as we have re established our close connection
Communication is the key as ever

It’s time for that conversation and don’t fake it again.

Yep ok 👌🏼
I will have the conversation. I’ve kind of tried to have it before but because I’ve faked it he doesn’t see the problem! So I think I’ll stop faking, be more genuine and then have the conversation.

Faking it has always been a means of protecting his ego. Nothing menacing. It’s because I love him but I do feel like a shitbag.

Sometimes I just like quickie sex without an orgasm. That to me is perfectly enjoyable. There are plenty of other opportunities for me to orgasm when we do oral or take longer over foreplay.