Im 44 my partner is 48 weve been together 3 years. I spent years not being very sexual with my ex husband I just didnt enjoy it was a bit nieve and busy being a mum of 3. Kind of had a sexual awakening in my mid 30s discovered a side to me that had been missing. When we met in 2019 things were very good sexually a huge spark but quite soon this faded (him not me) ...now we on an average are having sex once every 4/6 weeks. We've had no end of rows about it I've brought it up and it's always me that initiates it when we do have sex. I've gotten to the point that my self esteem is so low that I'm drawing away from him. He's very loving but a kiss is always as far as it goes and he avoids situations where "normal couples" would have sex and its making me so sad. He does have issues with performance and I know this effects him and embarrasses him but I've told him I just want intimacy it's not all about the act of sex. I dont know how much longer I can go on like this. Every time it's brought up he just sais "I know" or "I hear you" but nothing changes. What would you do?