Sex after a prolapse/childbirth

[beansprout55]

Hi,

Just wondering if anyone on here has had a rectocele prolapse before? I have one (6 months pregnant) and I'm really down about it. I can't stop thinking about it. I do kegals and start physio soon, but I'm still devastated and scared about what this means. It's only mild at the mo but I guess after the birth probably won't be.

I wanted to know from anyone who has one if it made sex rubbish for you or your partner? Does it make you really loose?

Just want to cry about it.

I have this, caused by childbirth. I'm 60 now and have learned to live with it, to make it worse I also have rectal/anal prolapse. Neither are bad enough for surgery, and the idea of the surgery terrifies me so I try to eat lots of veg, avoid constipation and I swim and walk lots for exercise. I have a very understanding partner who is not put off by the anal prolapse which becomes evident when I'm very aroused. Sometimes I feel very down about it, but mostly I get on with life and try not to think about it too much.
I bought a Kegel 8 machine which I think helps. I also use a little stool that fits around the loo so that's my legs are raised when I go for a poo. I wash rather than wipe afterwards.
My dr was awful when I went to see her, she dismissed me with the comment "you're the fifth patient today with this and frankly yours is nothing compared with theirs" I sat in her office crying, asking if I'm to spend the rest of my life putting my fingers in my vagina to defecate, she shrugged and showed me the door. I complained, saw a private gyno rectal surgeon who was really sympathetic and helped me to get over the initial fear and dread.
It is manageable, it's not pleasant but it's not as awful as it feels when you first get a diagnosis.
You have my total sympathy.

www.pelvicexercises.com.au/03prolapse/bowel-prolapse/

This woman has made videos about how to poo if you have rectocele and/or prolapse

This is the squatty potty I have in my bathroom to help with positioning when going to the loo. If you can't get one, even an upside down washing up bowl to put your feet on helps.

I'm 51 and have had my rectocele repaired twice 15 years apart .
Both times cannot begin to tell you what an a amazing difference it made. It's like you don't realise how much your slowly managing a condition until it's better .
And something I didn't expect but my sex life was back to normal .
No more feeling like I was about to you know what .
If your gp has dismissed you I would recommended seeing a other and just ask for a gynae referral for assessment of a surgical opinion .
Surgery didn't last forever but with the right aftercare a long time .
I stayed in one night and took things easy for couple of months .

I'm 30. Mines very mild and doesn't affect me currently, but I haven't had the baby yet (due in 3 months). I can feel a slight bulge some days, but other days nothings there. But the day that I felt it when I pushed on it it definitely made me feel like I was going to empty my bowel!
Physio said my PF is strong and didn't seem concerned?! I guess I'll see after birth.

My main question was how sex feels with a rectocele? I've only been married a year so I'll be gutted if this means bad sex forever! that's what's getting me down.

For me, it doesn't affect sex, I have a very active sex life and a larger than average partner!

I'm 33 and I had one after the birth of dc1. I had it repaired surgically despite being mild. I've since had dc2 and dc3 by elective section.