Hypothetical question, who would like this?

[nowtwoare]

Hypothetical question here and I am curious as to who also thinks the same? Also who is male/female/Bi/Straight out of curiosity.

Wouldnt it be nice in an ideal world or not as thats the question? if we all, male and female had a irresistible need which had to be fulfilled consensually ofcourse, to have hot passionate non emotional one time sex with half of all the adult population (within our adult age range) and of those half ofcourse were ones we found attracted and it was to be done on a weekly/or 3 day basis and the sex no matter what was either incredibly fulfilling or at worst still nice.
That this was the way of the world and we could all still have a one stable relationship/marriage but this was also a human necessity we all had and we all needed and accepted our wife/husband also needed.
Would anyone like this? Or admit to it? if that was the way society was?

It sounds very complicated. I opted for an open relationship instead.

I wouldn’t want to have sex with half of the male population but I do understand you can have a strong sexual desire for another person at the same time. If I was to have another relationship, it would be an open one, I don’t think monogamy is for every one, hence why open/polyamory relationships exist.

Some cults dissappear down this rabbit hole.....

It sounds awful (in best Marvin voice). Generally I like to enjoy a person's company without wanting to hump her leg.

@Catullus5

It sounds awful (in best Marvin voice). Generally I like to enjoy a person's company without wanting to hump her leg.

Interesting, so if your at say a beach in Spain on a hot day and surrounded by many beautiful women in bikinis and some topless or happen to be at a nudist beach you would not feel any sexual attraction to any women? or you would only maybe feel sexual attraction to a woman after enjoying her company and a developing an emotional connection? All of that is totally fine ofcourse, but please be honest? As I think for most men, if honest, and I know most men are conditioned to not admit this by society, but if they were at a beach all day on a hot day in Spain or many other European countries where they are surrounded by many beautiful women in bikinis and many topless they would experience sexual attraction to many of those women. I am sorry but I think this is true, having many male friends over the years who admitted when in such a situation it was impossible not to experience sexual attraction to some women as men are visual creatures and respond to visual sexual stimuli as men are sexually stimulated visually. So it would be nigh impossible for a man to be on a beach such as this and not be sexually stimulated visually numerous times, unless ofcourse you kept your eyes closed the whole time. Theres nothing shameful to admit this and it doesnt mean staring at any woman or being inappropriate, it just happening to notice and in your line of sight innocently you will be sexually stimulated visually. I know society teaching men this is not OK but this is how men, in particular are genetically wired.

I think that many people (and likely applies to women more than men) find a far smaller proportion of the population attractive enough to want to sleep with! And many (again, possibly women more than men) wouldn't want one time /non-emotional sex because actually getting to know someone and what works for them makes sex significantly better.

But where does your bizarre proposal for having to have sex with different people on a weekly or every three day () basis with half of the adult population in a certain age range come into it? Why is this odd framework required?

The premise you’re suggesting – that people can be attracted to many different people and sometimes want to act on that – isn’t a novel one. Many people, men and women, single and partnered, acknowledge that monogamy doesn’t really work for them and so they negotiate non-monogamous relationships which work for them – whether that be having one primary committed partner and the freedom for each to have sexual encounters with other people, or having two or more committed partners at the same time, or not having any committed partners at all and lots of casual liaisons. If you think a non-monogamous relationship would suit you best – go nuts! Don’t overthink it. You’re making it weird.

Your second post is very focussed on a) men and their apparent needs and how they’re different from women, and b) some ideal (for you) world where you get to take your pick of any hot woman on a beach and she has to want to have sex with you. This isn’t how it works and it ain’t never gonna dude, sorry. (And in my experience, men with this focus tend to be those who very much like the idea of non-monogamy for themselves but actually get very upset when their female OH is also sleeping with other people.)

@nowtwoare Whilst it’s not realistic what you’re saying, it sounds like you no longer want a monogamous relationship, is that correct? Which is fine but you can’t assume it is something your wife would want. I also can’t imagine men being sexually attracted to so many women. What is your sex life like?

There's something quite misogynistic about your attitude to women, particularly your remarks about topless or nude women on a beach.

Yes, men are visual creatures, I'll grant you that, but the idea that a woman in less clothing is more attractive or more arousing is incredibly shallow. You are fundamentally reducing women to body parts to be looked at, no matter how covertly. The supposition that you "can't help" being sexually stimulated in the presence of attractive women is nonsense.

I consider myself to have a very high sex drive. I love sex. With different people. If I were on a beach surrounded by gorgeous men and women, I might well engage one in conversation to see if there was a connection and chemistry. What I wouldn't do is lie on my towel getting turned on at the mere sight of bare flesh and thinking about fucking half the tourists. But I suspect I'm just more choosey than you...

Just sounds exhausting to me. There are a lot of things I prefer doing to sex so I'd give it a miss. I just don't feel the need to sleep with people just because they're good looking, I want much more of a connection than that. I'd also not want my OH shagging around and potentially bringing back all sorts of diseases.

@PinotPony

There's something quite misogynistic about your attitude to women, particularly your remarks about topless or nude women on a beach.

Yes, men are visual creatures, I'll grant you that, but the idea that a woman in less clothing is more attractive or more arousing is incredibly shallow. You are fundamentally reducing women to body parts to be looked at, no matter how covertly. The supposition that you "can't help" being sexually stimulated in the presence of attractive women is nonsense.

I consider myself to have a very high sex drive. I love sex. With different people. If I were on a beach surrounded by gorgeous men and women, I might well engage one in conversation to see if there was a connection and chemistry. What I wouldn't do is lie on my towel getting turned on at the mere sight of bare flesh and thinking about fucking half the tourists. But I suspect I'm just more choosey than you...

I don't believe I have a misogynistic attitude to women, women are all human beings and individuals with souls and should be treated with the upmost respect, which is how I view women. All I am saying is that I believe it is a fact, most men are visually stimulated sexually and without having any kind of misogynistic attitude about wonderful beautiful women at a beach who yes may have bikinis on but who are also women and human beings that most men will be more visually stimulated on a beach that at a out door skiking resort. I for sure would not lay there on a beach thinking about having sex with half the women there, what good would that be? it would be frustrating, ok a women in my line of sight I might find attractive sexually but I wouldn't stare and would then avert my eyes or do something else to distract my self. I have seen women who have scanned me out, not many times, but I wouldnt personally feel like I was some kind of object or take it personally and if they in their mind at that point or later wanted to fantasise about me, I would be honoured, I have been told a small handful of times from some women I knew they had done this with me. I am not saying I am anything amazing or wow look at me, I am good looking but not Brad Pitt or anything like that.

@nowtwoare

It's not that I wouldn't feel any sexual attraction. It's just that beyond a point feeling it becomes a bother and a nuisance. If I'm on the beach I quite like to read a good book.

Here are some other things that I have enjoyed either now or in the past: reading books, model railways, collecting stamps, collecting coins, gardening, playing football, cricket, squash, rugby, hiking, mountaineering, eating nice food, cooking, drinking, board games, hanging out with friends both men and women and just chatting, exploring castles, cathedrals and other old buildings, railway journeys, having fun with my wife and children, celebrating birthdays, prayer and meditation, listening to music, playing musical instruments, drawing and painting, watching films, writing stories etc etc etc.

I could go on. In this imaginary leg-humping world where would I have the time for any of the above?

Your imaginary world sounds like one populated by people that are less than human.

Also....

Theres nothing shameful to admit this and it doesnt mean staring at any woman or being inappropriate, it just happening to notice and in your line of sight innocently you will be sexually stimulated visually.

For about two generations now at least society has been very clear that this is absolutely fine. What it has been rather less good at admitting is that the average man is not a sex machine, he also needs emotional connection, and the two go very much together. Instead we are repeatedly told the priapic lie that men are made to rut as much as possible, and also that the only reason women aren't the same is because of hangovers from the past. It's nonsense. I like sex very much but there really is so much more to life.

An ideal world where we all increase the risk of getting HPV - boom! I just plummeted the notion back down to earth.
Would work for some who get off on pure physical joy, might work especially well after years together and/ or DC, when the shine has worn off. However, if sex is at its best for someone, when there is emotional attachment also, it would become a hollow pursuit in time for them. We all have different needs, it would work for some, not for others. ONS are never going to feature in my list of best shags had tbf.