It’s Been 3 Years

[Nouveaunew]

I haven’t had sex in 3 years (because of marital separation & a VERY negative sexual experience in my past). I’m starting to feel sexual attraction IRL toward men I don’t actually think I want relationships with! I do masturbate and am more turned on by women in that situation even though I identify as heterosexual.

I’m no good at FWB scenarios. I don’t have any ‘f buddies’ as it’s not my scene and I was married so it wasn’t on the table. I don’t do casual. Is my only option going on a dating site and trying to meet someone and slowly building up to meaningful sex? I don’t know if I can wait that long! I’m so horny it’s getting out of hand!

Don’t be shy. Try Tinder, I think that’s where I met my favourite one lol. Another one was an old friend, incidentally I’d always fancied him 😆 Regards to Tinder, there are definitely weirdos as people always say on here but there are also nice guys.

@UnicornPooPoo
It’s the weirdos that scare me tbh. The last time I was single I had a terrible sexual experience with a younger man. He was clearly influenced by porn and knew little about consent. He was the sweetest guy in the world before we got in bed though. Before that, I was fairly trusting of men but I’m very wary since then and swore I’d never get involved outside of a loving relationship… but now I don’t have one and I’m just rather horny at this stage!!!

I'm exactly the same as you

@Single45guy
With respect, I doubt that 🙂

@Nouveaunew I've had two FWB, (looking for another! ) and tbh, I'm not sure I'd go back to a "proper" relationship in a hurry...

I agree and admit, there are a lot of cheaters / wierdos / players out on the dating apps, and a lot of genuine guys - it will be possible to find someone!

You always risk getting someone that doesn't repect / trust you, or doesn't know how far to go, and when to stop. Theres nothing for it but to use your best judgement.

I've heard differing reports about younger guys & porn. A woman (in her 60's) I recently dated said she had had nothing but positive experiences with younger guys - she believed that they had learnt good things from it, but then again, she hadn't had sex for 20 years before that , so take from that what you will.

Maybe (and, no, I'm absolutely NOT selling myself!) try someone a bit more mature?

I might’ve known this would be a thread men would post on. Blessings to you all. I won’t be posting again 😊