Marathon sex sessions

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I love DH, he is fantastic. We've been together for 9 years and have two young DC's. I genuinely fancy him and really find him so attractive.

However, I am just dreading sex.

The first ten minutes are amazing and if it was ten minutes I would be absolutely over the moon but it always lasts 45 mins to an hour and it's just too long.

I have no problems with anything he's doing in bed! He's doing it all brilliantly but why has it got to go on for so long? He actually prolongs it on purpose.

He has always been like this and pre kids it didn't bother me. But now when I have two children who never sleep on top of me all day, I just want a quickie and then some time to do something else, preferably whilst not being touched by anyone. I am touched out.

I have spoken to him before and said that it's a bit too long for me and that we would be having more sex if the sessions were shorter but he hasn't received the message.

I don't want to offend him as he is lovely, and would be mortified to know I am not enjoying it. what can I do to help speed things up?

I'm not sure what you can do apart from having a more direct talk with him. If you reassure him that you do still fancy him and this is temporary, and as you say he would be mortified to know you're not enjoying it, he should listen to you and speed it up.

I suggest you initiate for shorter periods of time- maybe not in bed. Quick sessions as opposed to the hour. Also you did explicitly state your needs so why is he having an issue meeting them?

Does he take a long time to orgasm or does he purposefully delay it?

Sorry, just read that he does prolong on purpose. Are you sure this is the case and he doesn't have an issue?

I used to work with a woman who complained her partner had would keep sex going for hours sometimes and how she wished it was one 20 minute session and then sleep. This would often happen four or more times a week and she said it was so boring.

I agree. I prefer short sessions.

Someone mentioned having quickie sessions places other than bed.

I find outdoor sex is good for quickies as neither of us wants to be seen.

I’m not sure what you can do to speed things up, you orgasm when you orgasm really, unless he is using some kind of delay technique?

Does he suffer from retrograde ejaculation?