Premature Ejaculation

[ColaCocaCherry]

NC for this.

I've been with my new boyfriend for a few months now, everything is going really well.

However, one thing is that he suffers from PE. We speak about this openly. He cums extremely quickly during sex (a minute or so) and a similar length of time during a blowjob or a hand job.

It doesnt bother me too much as he is amazing with his fingers and mouth (the best I've ever had) and he makes sure I am fully satisfied, no complaints there. However, we both would like this to be different so I wondered if anyone has any tips or tricks?

I have started "edging/teasing" him and wondered if this was the right thing to do?

Thanks!

Why not prevent actual penetration until you’re close and then let him in at ‘the end’. Work backwards from there and he may improve his control as time goes on and he relaxes.

Ascertain if he was able to relax in to a longer performance with longer term partners. It’s only been a few months so the anxiety associated with a new partner may be high still.

@Longsight2019
Thank you.
This is what we do, we do quite a lot of foreplay, he makes sure I cum several times and then we will have sex. That's if we make it to actual sex! I've never had someone cum so quickly from a blowjob before. Even just touching it through his boxes he will have to stop me after no time at all.

I'll ask him about previous sexual relationships, we were talking about "faking it" a while ago and he mentioned he had done that once or twice, which makes me think that this hasn't always been an issue.

We are pretty laid back and comfortable, whenever he mentions it I just say it's absolutely fine (which it is, really) and he makes a comment about being glad he's good with his mouth and fingers to make up for it. I hope he isn't still anxious, I think he's amazing!

Thinking about it, he said the one area or contention with his ex was sex, so I wonder if its linked to that.

Have you tried any of the delay condoms or sprays?
Also I think some ppl use the numbing cream the tattooists use, I think it’s called EMLA.

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow
No, we haven't tried anything yet. We do use condoms, but not particularly thick ones, just the usual ones. We will be stopping using condoms soon, we've both had clear STI rests and I'm waiting for the pill to kick in, I wonder if it will get worse then?

@ColaCocaCherry
Try something like this for condoms.
www.lovehoney.co.uk/p/durex-extended-pleasure-latex-condoms-12-pack/343.html

When you stop using condoms it will probably get worse, you can try something like this.

www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex/better-sex-for-him/delay-spray-cream/p/tauro-extra-strong-delay-spray-for-men-5ml/35956.html

Or there is something called priligy which I think you need a prescription for

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dapoxetine

Or he has use some of the mindful techniques, but generally once you get to the ‘point of no return’ that’s that really

My hubby is on an SSRI (sertraline) for anxiety but this also a had very positive effect on his premature ejaculation, which seems to be a very common side effect. He was probably about 2-3 minutes before but now he can go for as long as needed and very rarely actually 'cums' now. We are not trying for children anytime soon so this is not an issue for us.