Saying your partners name during sex

[MarianaMassimo]

With my ex, I would sometimes say his name during sex, mainly when having an orgasm. It wasnt something I consciously did. The first time it happened I was actually just trying to tell him something, that I was about to come, I think. So was like 'mmm... X I'm...' (orgasm) unable to finish sentence. Then after that it kinda just got into my head I guess? And often when I was having an orgasm would say his name. It was never on some conscious level, like 'oh I need to say his name now' or something. It was always just something that slipped out sometimes! He didn't ever comment on it for a long time, so it wasn't like I was purposefully doing it to try and please/turn him on. But further down the line he commented that he absolutely loved it and was massively turned on when I said his name. If anything, that then made me more self conscious and I would be more aware and try not to say it because I felt like some cheesy porn star fake screaming his name! He would use my name during sex, but more just when whispering stuff in my ear... like 'M, I love it when...' or 'look how turned on you make me, M'. I liked that he used my name in that way.. like it was more personal/intimate connection or something?!
Then a few months ago I had a ons and the guy said my name during sex and I HATED it! It sounded so fake and was a big turn off. He was like 'oh yeah, M, fuck..' He said my name a few times. It honestly felt like he was purposely saying my name in an attempt to turn me on. It was awful!!! And I cringe so much to think me saying my ex's name ever came across in this dreadful way!
Even now (year after split with ex) when I orgasm by myself, his name often comes into my head. I'm not even thinking about him, it's like a habit thats etched into my brain- having an orgasm=his name. I can totally see how I could accidentally say his name during sex with someone else when I'm lost in the moment! And they would think I was thinking about my ex and I really wouldn't have been! I feel I need to train my mind to no longer associate orgasm with his bloody name!
Opinions please....! Do you say your partners name? Is it on purpose? Do you love it or hate it? How can I retrain my brain?! 🤦‍♀️

It's your comfort zone and comfortable place. Yes I do too.

No. But i rarely say his name at other times too. Just more like gets an ‘oi’ or ‘hey’ to get his attention

Yes just once or twice only in the heat of an orgasm... it's just a soft whisper not a shout! I don't do it all the time though.

Lol latest man says my name when he gets very excited, haven't had the heart het to tell him I find it a bit creepy, I have requested him not to swear, had to hold himself back from nearly doing once, but seems to have cut that out now happily as I find that more off-putting and grim. Strangely, first man I've known that likes to say stuff during, just for the he'll of it as opposed to being constructive or advisory. Each to their own I guess, it's not a deal-breaker to me.

Try to train yourself not to say your exs name, say it to a new partner and the sex will stop! Imaging yourself being on the receiving end of the wrong name.

Train yourself by saying something neutral, like "darling".

I know, it would be really, really awful if that were to happen. Yes, using something neutral sounds like a good idea, thanks.
Need to not get so comfortable in my comfortable place