Male Grooming question

[tdh1972]

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I'm about to become single after a VLTR (20+ years) and recently met up with a divorced friend (we're both men), who's recently re-married. At one point whilst staying with him and his wife, he took me to on side and asked me whether I realised how much things had changed on the grooming side? I said 'not really' and he then proceeded to tell me that women these days expect you to have removed most of your pubic hair (ie balls , very trimmed elsewhere) and also 'round the back'. This was news to me - 'round the back' !! He then claimed that oral exploration of the back end was quite common and I should veet or wax that area too. He claimed that multiple women he dated after divorcing did this and it was 'normal' for people dating these days (I'm sure the married / LTR amongst you will be as shocked as I was). So for over 30s single/dating amongst you - is this level of grooming considered the 'norm' now or is this just an aberration??!? Any advice appreciated...

Op - each to thier own. I don't think one sparrow makes a spring, iyswim. Different women will have different likes, so doing something for one woman will put off another.

What would you like to see on a woman? Shaved, styled or "natural"? Would it put you off DTD if she had something different? I think not.

Personally, I have removed mine, but that's just what my partner(s) like. I've done sac, but not back & crack - for me that's going too far, and I'm not hairy there anyway.

For now, do what feels right for you. If a prospective partner states a preference, and you are happy to go with it, then go for it.

I don't like men to have absolutely no hair. My husband just keeps his neat and tidy. He doesn't wax his bum but he's not really that hairy and I don't do anal stuff to him as he doesn't like it. I wouldn't expect every woman to be into that. I've seen hairier men that probably could have done with tidying up the area but I wouldn't expect them to do that if they didn't want to. I had an ex years ago who removed every bit of his body hair including his legs and underarms and that was a turn off for me.

I'm shaved front and back , my other half rims me now and again and the hair is a bit of a turn off for her

Met up with a good number of men after my 21 yr marriage ended.

This is the first time I've reflected on the fact that none of them were bushy round the front like ex was. All were very closely trimmed.

I recall most had natural hair on the bum cheeks. Crack wise, I only explored a couple and I recall them being pretty hair free.

Would more hair front or back have stopped me or put me off? Hell no!

Groom, or don't groom. Your choice. The most important thing is that you're confident and comfortable with the hair style you choose.