Embarrassing fetish...

[mrssteptoe44]

Nc for this.

I've recently discovered that my husband has a thing for 'sploshing' - the use of food and other messy substances. I saw his search history and he'd been looking at videos in length at times when I've been out. I felt quite hurt that it's something he's never openly shared or spoken to me about. Our sex life is quite vanilla and infrequent and this has come as a big shock to me.

I don't get it at all. To me the women in the videos pouring custard all over themselves just look ridiculous. Not sexy in the slightest. It's not typical porn in the sense that there weren't couples dtd or anything. I could maybe have understood that more...

I'm quite heavily pregnant right now so sex in general is off the menu (no pun intended) for now but I'm wondering if this is something I should offer to try at some point or just leave him to his fake fantasy. After all he's never voluntarily chosen to speak to me about this or reveal this side of himself so presuming it's not something he wants to do with me.

I do feel quite hurt and confused by it all. I always thought he was quite sexually reserved but now it feels like there's another side to him that I never knew about and that he doesn't want to share. Anyone else ever been involved in anything like this?

I have no experience of this particularly, however if you wanted to explore it with him you could suggest using food during sex (chocolate sauce, ice cream etc) and see how it goes? Some things are just fantasy though, we all like different things and that's okay. You're only hurt because you've seen it, he's still the same person you love & you found out something personal and private about him because you looked when you shouldn't have. Maybe he is desperate to try it with you but doesn't know how to bring it up? I think if you don't want to tell him you looked, you can suggest using some food as part of sex or talk about someone you know who is into this and ask him if he would enjoy it.

I did bring it up with him and he was very sheepish and clearly embarrassed so I didn't want to push too much. I wasn't being particularly nosey I was just using the iPad we all use and he clearly hadn't wiped the history.

It just feels like there's a side to him I don't know. He did say it's something that's always turned him on but it's just a silly kink whatever that means.

Could try a little whipped cream?

This is word for word a copy of a post made last year. Have you changed name OP?

At the time I remember clearly thinking it was a waste of good cake.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sex/4317440-talk-to-me-about-sploshing?msgid=109780901

[quote IheartJKRowling]This is word for word a copy of a post made last year. Have you changed name OP?

At the time I remember clearly thinking it was a waste of good cake.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sex/4317440-talk-to-me-about-sploshing?msgid=109780901[/quote]
Nice investigation, the plot thickens...

Hahaha!
Busted!