i want to be sexy

[themarina]

hello all,

so i will just drop this here hoping that i find some help
i am 30 years old, been married for 7 years and never been in any realtionship before marriage (never had a boyfriend)

my husband keeps telling me that i am so ''innocent'' ! and naive !

i am smart, really successful at my work and i am social. i have lots of friends and even my husband who calls me innocent says that when we first got together he really liked my personality and he thought i am special

but when we got together, it kindda stopped there.
i cant act '' sexy'' !
i never sextexted him, never took a photo of myself wearing something revieling for exapmle

the thing is, i really want to.
i want to embrace my feminin side, but i do not know how :/

i do not have sisters, and my girl friends never talk about these things with me

i want to spice things up between me and husband not only for him
but for my sake as well !

but i do not how and what to do

i am not sure how will you help me here, but i dont know whom to ask for help
i am only sharing my thoughts here

You could start by arranging a date night with your husband. Even if it is only cooking a nice meal, opening a bottle of wine, lighting some candles on the table.
Pamper yourself before hand, so you feel really good about yourself. Wear some pretty underwear.
Talk and enjoy each others company.
Then take his hand and lead him to the bedroom, take your time undressing him and touching and kissing him. Tell him what you like about his body, what you plan to do to him and what you want him to do to you.
Ask him his fantasies, what feels good for him. Start slow ,you do not have to be an over night sex goddess.
Enjoy the experience, tell him what feels good for you.

I agree a date night is a good start.
Do you feel comfortable dressing up in some nice lingerie? Love Honey is a good start.
Just start with simple steps and progress from there, or ask him for ideas.

A close male friend of mine recently asked about my sex life, keen to compare it to his own life with his wife. It's not something i've often talk about but here's the thing, it was good to open up about it. If you turned it around and a friend of yours starting asking out of genuine interest, you'd probably be flattered and keen to talk.

Innocence is good! To be cherished!

Definitely ask your husband - "what would turn you on?" I know if my wife asked me that question I'd be glad to answer it.

Or try the Mojo Upgrade questionnaire together (some of it is a bit full-on mind).

Different people find different thinks sexy, so I think the first thing you need to do is sit down and have a really frank discussion with your man.

If what he considers sexy is what you want for yourself, then you need to make your being sexy into a project for the pair of you. That way you can get the kind of regular feedback that will allow you to have the confidence to take the project further.

I reckon that any man would be really flattered that you want to do this for him (and also, importantly, for yourself). I wish you all the best and hope you achieve your goals.

Do you only have sex in bed? Always naked? Try variations.
Try every room in the house and the garden shed.