We don’t have sex

[Jojobinxpoi]

To cut a long story short I’m in a relationship, it’s not technically long distant but because of the journey and commitments we see each other once a fortnight as that’s all we can physically fit in.
We’ve been together for 6 months and despite always being a woman with no sex drive I end up very frustrated because he rarely wants to, can’t get hard or goes soft half way.
I then feel like it’s my fault because I’m not attractive or I ‘don’t do it for him’ physically etc so I pull away and we go to bed grumpy and miserable feeling like I’ll be in a sexless relationship all my life (previous relationships were sexless but that was because of my non existent sex drive back then).
I know he has a stressful job and is always very tired so this is likely the cause for losing interest in sex, but it does upset me as we’ve never had that passionate rip each other’s clothes off type of sex and to me sex is important especially early on in the honeymoon period. I’ve never even had an orgasm.
I have mentioned all of this to him but I feel so guilty by the end because it comes across like I’m demanding lots of sex when that’s not the case and I don’t want him to feel under pressure to ‘perform’. He says he just wants to spend time with me and enjoy our dates and sex isn’t the priority.
I don’t want to leave him because I’m genuinely happy in all other areas but it does concern me well never have that special intimacy and I’ll eventually resent him. Definitely no other women as I know lack of sex drive often means getting it elsewhere, but I know 100% this isn’t it.
Has anyone been through this and can advise please?

For a 6 month old relationship, this isn't worth it. Can I ask his age?

We’re both 31

Oh op, you're young, in a new relationship it should be non stop sex. Please ditch him and find someone who wants to have sex with you. It will do your self esteem massive damage to continue flogging this dead horse. Good luck.

Harsh though it may appear to be, I have to agree with those who say you need to move on from this relationship.

At this stage of the relationship, given the frequency of your meetings, you should indeed be ripping the clothes off each other at any opportunity.

No amount of liking/loving someone can fix these kinds of issues, so I'd say that you need to retain him as a friend, if you wish to, and look elsewhere for sexual satisfaction.

Thank you

I see my 29 yo boyfriend every fortnight. We're 2 years into our relationship and still crazy hot for one another.

Throw this one back. It won't get better.

Yea definitely end this, he's young to be having such physical issues, imagine how bad it will be when he's older? Rest assured his issues are his own and no reflection on you whatsoever so don't take it personally. That's not to say it's a problem for you to fix or deal with, it's for him to sort, unless he's happy with the way he is, which he may well be.

at that age and only 6 months in you have problem

Wife and I have been together 30 year and have recently been discussing if once or twice a week is enough. With our knees its about all we can muster these days, but 30 years ago it would have been very different

If you are unhappy get out now.

Oh good lord 31??

I'd say this is not for you.

Having said that, are you really having negative discussions about sex just afterwards?? I wouldn't do that.